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What motivates people to adopt internationally?

Well in the case of normal human beings it is the overwhelming desire TO BE A PARENT. It is not a desire to rescue some "poor" child from a poverty stricken life. If you want to be charitable and help poor children then there are many other avenues to take. You donate money or time to a charity. You do not adopt a poor child because you want to "save" it. Just imagine the emotional baggage that any child will grow up with knowing that it was brought into your home as a charity case.

Prospective adoptive parents have this drummed into them throughout the selection process. It is absolutely frowned upon in the world of international adoption (the real world , not the celeb world)to specify what aged child or what sex of child you want. The psychologists will not approve you if you show a strong desire for a girl or a boy or a certain age. Your desire to be a parent must be so strong and so GENUINE that you will accept any child you are offered. It is not about shopping for a rainbow family and choosing your child´s age, sex, and colour and nationality (à la Angelina Jolie)

Madonna`s adoption of David Banda was wrong on so many levels.

All paperwork and assessment was done AFTER she went browsing through an African orphanage. (Incidentally, Malawi had no international adoption convention until she showed up with big bucks and they changed their laws to suit her.) Absolutely impossible for any normal prospective adopter. No paperwork, no kid. She chose a child with a living parent. Given that she was able to choose, (again not an option for normal people) she should have been more noble and chosen a real orphan.Why did she want him particularly, was he cuter than the rest?

Now she´s going back to Malawi.

No other country (IN THE WHOLE WORLD) with an International Adoption Programme allows adoption by people over the age of 45. MADONNA IS 50.China was the most permissive,but has tightened it´s restrictions. Single parents are not welcomed any more by the countries that once did. Madonna is single .As far as I know, no country will entertain the idea of adopting out a child to people who already have three children. Most will only allow adoption to families with no children at all or in some cases only one. Madonna already has three. In the adoption process a stable family background is prized above all else. Madonna is regularly trotting around the globe.

I have no idea what type of mother Madonna is. I do not judge her or the Jolie Pitts as parents. But I DO question that money and fame talks . At a time when virtually ALL the countries with IA programmes are cutting back on the number of children they "export" (i.e. China, Russia, Eastern bloc countries) it is sickening to see celebs do it all so easily.

I read that Katie Price wants to be part of the new trend. What psychologist would judge her right in the head with the time and money she has spent mutilating her body.

A child is for life.

Jordan buy yourself a handbag instead.

I've heard/read Madonna doesn't even look after the kids it's the nanny, so it's the nanny that will get the extra work and be like a mum not Madonna. From what I've read/heard the only kind of mum she is is a bank account. So the kids will never want for anything but they need love. This could be completely untrue of course.

Rubbish. Ask the child what he/she would prefer...Who would choose a life in an orphanage over a life in the US with loads of money and access to the best life has to offer???

Life's not all about money I know and I don't expect Madonna is the most fantastic mother - but she seems to have done a pretty ok job with the others (aside from the bizarre no TV rule).

If there were a reasonably well off (and I mean a house, running water, education facilities) with a local family - that would be preferable - but they are not forthcoming are they.

I don't think the child would thank anyone for turning Madonna away for the sake of their "cultural heritage..."

I am not comfortable with it at all. If she tried to adopt in England or the US she would be turned down because she is a 50 year old single mother with 3 other children. So she flashes her money around in a poor country and they just hand over the child she wants. She won't look after the kid anyway - except for a few photo opportunities. She's constantly jetting off around the world so the child will be looked after by nannies. The whole thing is morally wrong.

I get where your coming from but I think your missing something. If she was to use her vast resources to just throw money at the orphanage, who do you think would truly benefit. The orphans? Afraid not, corruption is one of the cornerstone problems in Africa, and in al likelihood that money would end up being divided between lots of people, the orphans last on the list. I truly believe that regardless of her intentions she will be saving one more child. Even if her intentions are selfish and narcissistic that child will have a better life, and education and a warm clean place to sleep. The opportunities opened up to her are vast. Even if Madonna's intent is to drop the child off with a nanny and be done with her, how is that worse than the fate she has been sentenced to in her current life?

It's always been my opinion that if you're going to adopt you should adopt from your own country. Yes, there are many children suffering in third world countries but there are also many children in your own country without families. Surely there are many American children Madonna can give a better life to? How is adopting one child from Malawi (is it South Africa this time?) going to help the rest of the country?

Regarding the "fashion accessory" idea, I wouldn't go that far. But it would seem as if she is trying to make herself look more charitable by adopting from a third world country.

Although I did read an article once where one of Angelina Jolie's friends said "She's always wanted a little black boy". Like it's a puppy or a handbag.

She is actually funding the building of a girls' school over there, but I think that's being done largely to justify her sidestepping the adoption system.

Madonna ia fifty now - too old to keep bringing young children into her life. She'll be a pensioner before these two kids are barely out of their teens!

I find Madonna to be an arrogant woman with a very strange attitude to parenting. She wants all these children, yet I wonder just how much of the rearing will be done by her personally? Very little.

I totally agree with you. I think it is all for publicity, even if she is deluded enough to not believe that herself. She is worth an absolute fortune, and could really make a difference to a whole village of people without it denting her bank accounts, so instead of removing another child from its home land and its own culture and extended family, she should pur some money into the child's local community so all the kids there can have a better life, not just the one

These children are not "hers" after adoption...they are just another child for her nanny to take care of. In a way, they do have a better life from what they would have had but when you are adopted you want the love of a mother and/or father ... and they certainly not getting that from her .. plus they aren't receiving any morals, that's for sure!

Yes disturbing is the word for it. But for me as an African, the spin that an African child is better off with a psycho rich Westerner than in his own home environment is even worse.