My aunt and 10 year old cousin are staying with my family and they need to leave. The said they would "visit for a little while" so her green card won't get taken away (she lives in Nigeria but has a green card) Currently, they are asking if we can have our house remodeled to have a extra bathroom and bedroom. That money can be used for apartment rent money. The 10 yr old acts like he's 5 and his mom gets mad when people think he has some sort of mental disability. I know they're relatives in need, but my mom a has a bad leg which causes her pain caused from stress. I don't want them to trigger any more stress. Is there any way I can mention the idea of getting an apartment without sounding rude?
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Your mother is the product of the culture in which she grew up. In so much of the Third World, people practice a kind of "role reversal" that is appalling to our society. You see the person taking advantage of a relative, in this case your mom, by overstaying their welcome, expects to be able to continue to take advantage as long as they wish with no repercussions. In the old country no one would dream of pointing out the obvious stress and expense of having "guests" who remain far beyond the bounds of courtesy. They just stay and some even suggest their host build on a bedroom or two with a connecting bath so that the "guests" can have a more comfortable "visit". Outrageous! Your mother needs to act like an American if she wants to be one. Tell the aunt and her child that in one week they need to make other arrangements. Only she can do this. If your mother or father will not make any requirements of these people, you cannot.
Who owns the condo? Your individuals? If they do, it is as much as them. In the interim, do not begin screaming considering it may not paintings. If he begins downing your father, you have to recognise precisely what you're going to mention. Make it respectful however powerful. No title calling. No swearing. Just cope with what he is doing incorrect. My thought could be to put in writing it down. First get all of it from your approach. Then get to the basis of your hindrance with him, like probably three matters. Write out a few of matters you desire to mention and if he begins up, begin off evenly. But he maintains within the identical dialog, rise up in your father and permit him have it. Without swearing and title calling. Your individuals will likely be proud.