He's smart and funny, I'm dumb and drunk?
There's a guy, I really like. I guess you could say love. For 2 years. We use to be friends, not anymore. He's smart, he's funny, everyone likes him. He plays football, although he's not exactly in shape, but I couldnt care less how he looks. He has a cute nose and amazing eyes though :] He's not like a 'typical' boy, with girlfriend after girlfriend.. he's had one girl friend, but he's told me of another girl he likes right now. Her name is Kate. Shes skinny, smart, and a good kid. I hope that they get together.. but I also want him for myself.. problem is, I'm stupid.. I dont do good in school. I try though. I have OCD. I drink alot, I smoke pot, sometimes I dont come to class, usually because I'm sober and extremely self-concious. I know it's a problem. He knows about it. He doesnt like it, smoking or drinking.. I want to stop.. I want to stop for him.. I dont think it would change how he feels about me, Ive already dissapointed him too much, he probably thinks I'm a pathetic loser. I love him so much. Please.
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Confess your feelings for him. It's easier to quit all that junk, when you've got a guide, an angel, leading you along the road of sobriety.
Just think about it: How can you be self-conscious when the man of your dreams already loves you as much as he possibly could?
However, he could be turned-off, try and act real nice, and let you down easy. He sounds like a reasonable guy.
Consider the risks.
Make your decision.
And good luck.
The fact that you thought of changing for him is a good starting step already. The next step is to take action on what you thought. Stop everything that's ruining YOU. Love yourself first, and all takes place. He'd see that you've changed, that you're better. And maybe he'd realize that you're for him too.
Don't be down on yourself...there's always room for change. Tell him how you feel, tell him you want to get better and be a better person. Say you need his help and you want to change for him, he should be extremely flattered and want to help you. A problem like this sometimes help things fall into place. Goodluck(:
sounds like you're willing to drop a lot just for him, thats dedication, not many people would go and do all that
maybe you need to let him know how you feel, he might understand and even try to help you get over those things if you tell him you want to stop doing those things for him, he might be touched by it
u shouldnt change for him. while what ur changing is negative and should be changed u should only change them for yourself. if u like him u have to tell him before he dates this other girl or else u may lose your chance.
i think you should stop drinking and smoking because it makes ppl think of 'what you are'.
not a good match