I'm feeling pretty lonely at the minute?
Hi all, I'm a 14 year old girl, I'm an only child, and I'm feeling pretty lonely at the minute. Whenever I want to talk to someone in depth, I never get the chance. I don't tell my parents anything personal any more, because I know they judge me and tell my secrets to their friends while they're drunk.
Like I said, I've got no siblings to talk to, and me and my cousins aren't really close. I have a few friends at school, but they're mostly rough-and-tumble type boys, so I don't feel comfortable talking to them about that stuff. I've got a few friends who are girls, but they see me as this hard-*** tomboy type girl, which I am most of the time (I love sport, I like a lot of stuff that guys like and I get on well with loads of guys) so i don't want to open up to them incase they see me as weak.
I know this sounds really self pitying and all, but I'm just wondering if you think I should talk to my friends? I never tell anyone anything. When some people I was close to died last year, I told no one who didn't know them; they still don't know now.
So will people think less of me? Or is sharing thoughts and feelings a good thing?
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Hi
i had about 3 best friends who were an only child and i always found them to be the best friends, loyal and true. fun too. they didn't think about what they didnt have but what they did. you should focus on being the best kid in your family and the best person you can be
you will find friends come and go, even ones you think will be there forever but they don't. rarely they stay for 20 years or more but it is a learning path. we learn what we do from them and move on.
dont feel lonely, your young and one day you will have good friends, ones you can trust and work and play with. be confident and know it isn't how many you have or you can trust but how happy within yourself you like you and enjoy your life
make every opportunity count, be excited and look for openings everywhere but dont get desperate. dont go with the popular crowd to be seen or do for guys cause theyre cute or hot, or they pay that much attention to you. guys who like you will like you for you and not make you do things for them
cheers
Right first things first Talking is a amazing thing,you should never bottle things up,it leads to stress,and thats not good in its itself.Im 23 years old and when I was your age i was doing the same,not telling people my problems etc,because i felt like noone understood,me it wasnt till a few years later i broke down in front of a family member who is very close to me.I broke down about things that were happening etc.Friends never judge you no matter what happens.You should feel comfy in your own skin enough to be able to tell them things.Do you have any other family besides your parents even a aunt or uncle about or grandparents.I turned to my aunt for support through many of my life changes,I have been through alot myself,my upbringing was distruptive due to my mothers problems,but I found a way through it all.I suggest yes you speak to your friends,but also speak to family should you have it.Friends should be there to support you not find you weak if they do that,then they should be having a word with themselves.Folk should remember that when they point the finger there are 3 pointing back at them.Also speak to a guidance councillor at school they are brilliant,everything is said to them in confidence I had one at school when things were getting tough and they helped me with everything xx i hope this helps I know you dont know me but i have had similar through my life.Hope you find help in the best way possible :)
you should definitely talk to your friends. To carry something as big as some people that were close to you dying last year an not telling anyone, no-one should think less of you for that. If they do, you don't need them.
Share your thoughts and feelings, bottling them up isn't good especially at 14.
If you don't feel comfortable talking to all of them confide in one that you think that you trust the most :)
It ought not matter
What, other people think- if you are in need of friend and a shoulder to cry on, those friends should be there for you. You, should not be scared to go up and tell them what is bothering you, if you do need to worry about such a thing then they are not the type of friends you should be hanging around. Everyone, needs a close friend where they can be able to tell them all their troubles and worries. So, do not ever be scared to look for a shoulder to cry on- if the person is true they will be there for you
try to get in school where you can talk to more friends your age and everything esle
get agrip of yourself life is to short just be yourself and ignore others
:~} i have that problem, yeeeeeee i don't know what to do either.