Ended up having sex with a friend's crush. HELP?!?
So this one girl and I hang out in the same big group of friends and I have absolutely nothing against her but she HATESSSS my guts for whatever reason. Well she kinda had a "thing" with this guy I guess. I mean they aren't/weren't dating but they flirted a lot and it was pretty much just known that she wanted to be with him. So anyway we were all spending the night after at a friend's last night and I woke up to them screaming at each other apparently she was face-wasted drunk! So I ended up comforting the guy who I've actually also kinda had a thing for or at least think he's really really hot. We actually ended up hooking up and falling asleep together and he told me he wants it to turn into a relationship.. The thing is I really really want to go out with him too but I don't know what to do because our mutual friend will hate me and I'm kinda freaked out by her, and I just don't know how we will ever tell our friends? What should I do? Should I just pretend nothing ever happened? I really like him :(
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It's a tough situation, but think of it this way: if he really liked your friend, he would have asked her out by now and he wouldn't be talking about dating you. Obviously his feelings for her are not that strong, so do you think they would have a good relationship together? Probably not.
It's hard. You want your friend to be happy, but you don't want to have to sacrifice your own happiness at the same point. Someone will get hurt in this situation, that much is inevitable (either you date him and your friend gets hurt, she dates him and you get hurt, or neither of you date him and he gets hurt).
What I would do is wait it out a bit. Maybe he's asking you do get into a relationship because he sees how easy he got you to sleep with him. Or maybe he really likes you more than a friend and really wants an actual relationship. Tell him you like him, but that you don't want to make things official just yet. See what he says. If he likes you, he'll wait. If he just sees an opportunity to get sex whenever he wants, he won't wait.
While it's nice to think of our friends, we sometimes have to think about ourselves. If you like him and he likes you go for it. If your friend wants to be a ***** then f*** her!!! Your happiness is important too.