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Ohh he is just F*ckin with you :(. Also he told his brother some things about you as well, hence his brother is trying to mess with you. Facebook is always full of drama. But please leave both of them along!. The original guy your text about just being his friend. But real talk, no guy likes hearing that answer. If you don't wanna date someone, just tell them. If they don't understand, that's their problem. But telling you wanna be just friends will make them wanna pursue you even more, which is whats happening to you now. Tell both of them, i don't want anything to do with y'all

First off, You should make up your mind whether you want him or not?! Second of all, It really doesn't matter if he opens the door for you, or show up early. Just think about girls, they flake on guys all the time, they show up late, do we treat them the same way ? Maybe he showed up late because something has happened to him. You can only judge someone as being un-punctual if they repeat it over and over. You should give people the benefit of the doubt to see what they are all about.

So now he decided to try his chances with you, probably he wanted to let it cool and retry. If you really think you want to give him a second chance, then just forget about the first date. Life isn't perfect, some guys may open the door for you on every single day, but later they break your heart like an asshole. Try to focus on the main part and get to know him. If he is not a nice person, then stop considering him. You can always teach him to treat you better in a relationship, I am not a bad guy, I'm a successful guy who really doesn't act submissive. When I started dating my gf, I never opened the car's door for her, after a month, she said. "Can you please open the car door for me like a gentleman ?" And I laughed and said sure princess. After that it became our inside joke, I open the car door for her every single time and most of the time we just laugh at it. She got what she wanted because she bared with me until we became close enough to talk about little things like that. Got the point ?

You text him and told him you weren;t ready for a relationship... now, what do you think he took from that?? Was he supposed to know you didn;t actually mean it, and was just testing him (which is what you were doing)? What response did you expect/want? Grovelling, pleading? He's a bloke.. he just shrugged his shoulders and thought 'oh, well'. Now, he may have been a bit sad, or annoyed, but you made your self quite clear, and he took you at your word. I;m pretty sure there is a piece or two missing in this jigsaw, why would his brother start communication of fb? You have played a game, and it has backfired. I don;t think you are confused at all. You want to find a way of renewing your relationship without making yourself look silly. His thought processes are crystal clear, yours are much more murky. BTW... offering points is insulting. People who genuinly contribute aren;t bothered about points. Only points guzzlers whizz through questions looking for opportunities for one word answers. Why would anyone be desperate for 10 points!.

Maybe he didn't mention it because he doesn't want it to be awkward. He might actually be trying to just be friends.