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No, a cop-out or story made up at some point by married people who want to have an excuse for cheating... If you are happy in your marriage there will be no itch.

By the way there is no perfect marriage, all married people have problems in some form or another, it just the way you deal with it... Some couples rather just walk away from the marriage rather than work on fixing it. We live in an era where now everything is disposable, phones, plates, watches, and yes even marriages.

It's actually a "four year itch" and is explained by anthropologist, Helen Fisher in her book, "The Anatomy of Love". She explains that men and women will mate and stay together long enough to raise a child to independence, ie. walking, talking, etc. which will help them survive longer. These parents choose each other because of the positive attributes they can bring to the relationship and pass to their child, thereby passing more of their genes into subsequent generations. Her theory is that the parents will then separate and find new mates with other attributes that will also be passed into subsequent generations which differ from the first set of children. That being said, I don't believe that is so for the majority because people because they are staying married longer than four years and are apparently satisfied.

Mid Life Crisis...nah. People grow in different directions which is why marrying at a young age is NOT such a good idea. Usually, when you hit 45 or so, you know what you want, what you will not accept and how to compromise.

I do not believe in the seven year itch really, but what I do believe, based on years of sound research is that every marriage/long-term relationship goes through 5 stages, making maintaining a healthy marriage a life long process.

To me a mid-life crisis is no more than a person in a relationship that questions their choice of a partner & decided in their 40s approx.that they have to make changes in their lives before they get any older.

I think it's pretty common in couples who don't work at their marriages. My husband and I are on our 2nd and we have both learned we're lucky to have each other and we're not about to screw that up. We floated through the 7 year itch because we were having fun together. We've been married 16 years and are still crazy about each other.

Ohh hell yeah! I had more like a 4 and 5 year itch! People change or things become stagnent and it gets the mind wandering. Hang in there and keep your intagrity in check. Focus on why you love this person and move forward.

Good Luck!

I believe in meeself.... seven year itch is bullcrap, mid life crisis is an excuse and marriage is for codependents....

actually, research is demonstrating that the 7 years is now 5 years.

relationships are tough and take considerable effort.

long after the honeymoon period is over and as you settle into your lifelong partnership in debt, raising kids, excelling at your job, it is inevitable that two individuals will grow apart in some ways

the trick is to find ways to grow together as well, and that takes time, energy, and commitment

I do believe there are different cycles to life and at times it does seem a bit harder than at other times, be this dealing with your marriage or dealing with the kids etc.

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