What Does Mother Do To Child's Clothes?
I have a nephew who I take care of on the weekends, and I buy him tons of clothes usually name brand and very expensive. I love him and want the best ok. I always send a size or two bigger to her. Even sent brand new back packs, tickle me Elmo and all that.
Now, he lives with his mom and my brother pays child support to the mother..... Every time my neph, comes she sends the most cheapest clothes and clothes that were from 2-3 years ago worn out, and frayed, which makes him look poor and uncared for. It makes me upset and I have asked her what about the clothes, and she claim he outgrows them.
I have documented and taken pictures of all the clothes I send and she is lying. What does she do with these clothes and items? Why does she lie???
Update:She claims he lost his Skecher shoes that we bought brand new. And he wears his sneakers which she bought that are ripped and terrible looking. For the backpack claimed the dog ripped it up. Untrue.........
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Obviously she's a compulsive liar. Do not send any new clothes home with your nephew. From now on when you buy him something, keep it at your brothers house. When your nephew comes, take off his junk clothes and put on the nice ones that you buy him.
My son has a friend whose parents dress him in other friend's hand me downs. The problem is that the hand me downs are from 7 years ago so the boy ends up looking like a loser. Ironically they buy their daugther all the Uggs, Coach, etc that she wants. But around school the boy just looks so silly. I think that some parents don't realize the social pressure our children have these days. When I buy clothes for my kids, I am very conscious of the message their clothes send. I'd rather have less but better.
She could be doing one of three things to the clothes.
1. Taking them back to the store. I had this problem with a relative so I started cutting the tags out.
2. Selling them on the street or to others.
3. Hidding the clothes and telling you the kid has out grown them. This has happened to me.
Maybe his mom doesn't want you in his life and making an influence on him. She's his mother and she probably wants him to grow up with the stuff she buys him. Maybe it makes her feel uncomfortable and as if she is poor and can't afford to give her child what he needs. If this really bothers you, than just keep the clothes you buy him at your place that way you know he wears them and she doesn't have to lie to you about the clothing she obviously doesn't want her child to wear.
She might be selling them on eBay.
Ask the kid. He should know.