Ok he didn't leave me or anything, well not physically. But i am the middle child, and i am the only girl. My parents are divorced and have been for about 7 years. My dad ignored me as a little girl unless i was a little butt head, then yea I'd get in trouble. But tonight I finally exploded and told my dad how i felt, then my brother thought it was ok for him to get upset. well he and my oldest brother have always been looked at the stars in my family even though both of them quit school and one is married and has a baby ( who i love with all my heart) and they are still looked at as the best ones out of the whole family. did i do the right thing by expressing but with my temper i left b/c i knew if i stayed there My BROTHER would beat the crap out of me when my dad would go to bed. What do I do to get a relationship with my dad?
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Whew.
Ok, stop here at 'My brother would beat the crap out of me."
Your brother is not your parent, and he has no right to put his hands on you in any form except a hug that you're allowing. He needs a few explanations on the law.
Having said that, STOP. You can not make anyone love you. More importantly, you can't dictate how someone loves you, especially family. You didn't choose them, and most times you just have to accept that their idea of love might not be your idea of love. To spend your time obsessing about why someone doesn't love you the same as they do someone else is to invite disappointment.
If you are 17, it's time to start looking into what you're going to do with your life. I hope you're working, and if not, find a job, because very soon it's going to be time to leave the nest. You have to be your own person honey. You have to stand on your feet and determine for yourself that emotionally, spiritually, and physically, you deserve better than the way YOU have been treating YOURSELF.
Stop trying to live up to the ideals of others. Your siblings have been the stars of the family? Ok. So? You are not them, and 'stardom' is not a goal for a loving family. Don't worry about it. God allowing, you have your whole life to make of it what you desire it to be. Set your goals, remain prayerful, live your life.
If you don't have God it in, make that a priority. To Him, none are better than the others, He loves us all the same and doesn't play favorites. He also has the ability to give us the ability to go forward whatever the obstacles and the strength to say to those who say we can't ----I CAN!!
Seek Him, Trust Him---then focus on becoming what He plans for you to be, not on what people believe you should be.
Be Well and God Bless.
You were right to tell your dad how you feel,you just went about it the wrong way,you prob. should have been calm,and given your dad a few hours warning.