Are there any boundaries on friendship?
I have 3 best friends, so pretty much, we are a group of 4 friends.
One of my friends however (I'll call her person A), claims that she is someone who doesn't see friendship as permanent, and as someone who doesn't get close to people very easily. When the 4 of us are together, and me, person B, and person C are there telling each other our secrets, person A just stands there quietly. She says that friends can never be trusted as easily as family, no matter what. Therefore, I find that she is gradually distancing herself from us, and she specifically told me it's because she thinks that friendship is never permanent. She feels restricted by being "confined to a group of 4 people" and wants to go out and meet more people. I'm pretty sure we are not "restricting" her...the 4 of us don't even go to the same university.
What do you think? Do you agree with her views on friendship? I personally find that having 2 or 3 very close friends where you can tell them practically anything is quite nice.
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definantly, i have a selective group of people i tell everything to and i trust
she is very... "closed" i guess you would say
probably has daddy issues
Well I hate to burst your bubble. But a person has at most 1 Best friend. Any more than that, and your sure to get drama. You usually don't get that friend until later in life. That friend will be the one holding your hand during medical visits, and you'll tell everything to.
So your current friend A is right, don't trust anyone.
love your name...i like turtles ahahhaa
and i totally agree with you, she has some huge problems in the friendship department. if you were nice youd stick to her to prove her wrong about friendship being a shaky thing, but if i were you id just not bother to make the effort to include her anymore, shes she's ovbiously "over" being in a confined group of 4 and wants to graze n new pastures. friendship might not be permanent but that is no reason to try! two people can always find comfort in eachother no matter who they are, so...good luck!