Help on this age difference. What should I do? Is this too old?
I need advice. Ok I'm 24 yrs old and this guy I work w, he's 44. Other than the issue of being coworkers, he's got a crush on me and he's told me and hes flirts sometimes too. And I've been told that he's a good guy. But i nt think I'd hang out w him but then again I dnt knw. This morning I dust realize how much I care about working w him untill I was pulled to another unit. I didn't realize I liked him flirting and saying stuff. I told myself no just let him do his flirtations and all. It makes his day better and I didn't realize I liked it and it makes my day lot better to work with too. I distribution realize I actually care and I liked him. I was wondering why do I care so much. I didn't expect this, I didnt want to feel like this. So the question is, what do I do? And the whole coworker thing I understand so I know about that. But what should I do about this mentioned???
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Jessica, there is no rule that says that two people who were born 20 years apart can't fall madly in love and be happy together! :) It happens often.
But there are complications that arise later in life. Ten years from now, his body will start to break down, and you'll still be young enough to want children.
In 20 years, he'll probably need medication for high blood pressure, and maybe Viagra, develop bone and joint pain, have prostate problems so he needs to pee every five minutes, and become nearsighted and bald. He'll be thinking seriously about retiring and enjoying life while he's still mobile enough to do so, and you'll still be young enough to want children.
In 30 years, he'll definitely be a senior citizen with all the problems he had before, maybe be incontinent, start displaying symptoms of senility or Alzheimer's, be unable to drive, walk slowly, be crippled... You may find yourself a young widow with pre-teen or teen-aged children, no hope of marrying again, or - at best - a home caregiver with children, aging parents, and an aging husband to care for.
So it's really important to look to the long-term future. If you just want a puppy-love fling with this guy, go for it! It's healthy, it's fun, and it hurts no one. But if you're thinking seriously of making him your future, take a look at the men that you know in their 60's, 70's, and 80's, because that's what your future will hold.
I say give it a chance, you never know what will happen. Maybe you guys will go out and realize you don't REALLY like each other. Or maybe you guys will go out and discover you DO like each other. And to think he'll be old and decrepid in the future, a relationship should never be based on physical contact alone. If you really care for someone, you'll be with them even if they do have those joint pains or are using Viagra or are in a wheelchair.
I say give it a shot! :)
quite difference