My boyfriend and I have been together for five years, this has always been kind of an issue. My sex drive is through the roof and his....isn't. Anyway, he's always too tired or doesn't feel good or isn't in the mood. I know he looks at porn all the time. He won't admit it, but when I look at his browser history that's the majority or sites he's visiting. I've told him before that's what the problem is, but he just denies looking at it. What can I do? This makes me feel sooo unattractive that he would rather look at fake girls on the internet than be intimate with me....I'm so hurt and I'm almost to the point where I don't wanna be around him, even though everything else in our relationship is perfect. Created by Katie. family-relationships-import - singles-dating-import

Boyfriend would rather watch porn than have sex?

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Boyfriend would rather watch porn than have sex?

My boyfriend and I have been together for five years, this has always been kind of an issue. My sex drive is through the roof and his....isn't. Anyway, he's always too tired or doesn't feel good or isn't in the mood. I know he looks at porn all the time. He won't admit it, but when I look at his browser history that's the majority or sites he's visiting. I've told him before that's what the problem is, but he just denies looking at it. What can I do? This makes me feel sooo unattractive that he would rather look at fake girls on the internet than be intimate with me....I'm so hurt and I'm almost to the point where I don't wanna be around him, even though

everything else in our relationship is perfect

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When a guy gets addicted to porn, it gets to the point where his body cannot get/maintain an erection with a real woman without it.

Google the topic and you will see support groups where the guys help each other overcome this addiction and retrain their bodies. It takes months.

Mention it to your boyfriend.

If he doesn't choose to heal himself, you don't have much choice. No relationship is going to survive the way things are right now for you.

Anonymous

This situation is all too common these days. I have heard from countless women who think that they must not be good enough, other-wise why would he be looking at other women on porn. some women know that they are beautiful, attractive and some know that they are stunning, and so they are really puzzled. something else is going on entirely. the reason why most men watch porn has little to do with them looking for an attractive girl that interests them. no it is because entirely which i am about to tell you. However you cannot undersetimate the info I will be informing you of. its because you will be passing by the solution to his problem. it's like passing by your own rescue ship. so the reason why he watches various sexual presentations has to do with sexual and mental manipulation. he does not know what is going on. Like most men he thinks that its a bit unusal sex, and thats that. he does not suspect that he is being lied to porfusely, and mentally tricked powerfully. I suggest you inform yourself and get info to inform him, and have him work onhimself , gradually freeing himself rfrom th illusion that he is under. you dont know a smidgen of the lies they portray oncreen.

Anonymous

Well, you need to sit down with him and talk about the problem like a team and try to work somthing out. Also, you need to follow your heart. If you are hurt by what he does/says than you also need to talk to him about that. If he does love you than he would be willing to talk about it. And also, there must be a time. Try and find a time of day where you are both up and about and can get some privacy for a few hours. And if that does not work, tell him that it would make you real happy :)

When my gf says somthing like that to me I normaly fold within a minute or two. Also, if you guys do work out a time, remember to wear a condom unless you guys want kids. Best of luck :)