Why is boyfriend nice to everyone even if they took advantage of him?
He's always been like this even before i met him. He would always forgive people and be friends with them even if they did the worse thing possible to him. I don't think there was actually a time where he really was mean except the one time i told him that he should get spine and stand up for himself. Like a girl sexual abused him he just straight out said he forgave her even though he feels so dirty and violated still. I can't really leave him since I'm pregnant with his child. Is there any way I can change his bad habit into being someone who can be mean sometimes even though he knows it hurts a person?
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it sounds like he's just a nice guy in general, and doesn't hold grudges..
Why would you want to change him.
It could be a self-esteem issue for him, or he could just have been bullied/abused so much growing up that he genuinely doesn't think it's wrong for people to treat him badly.
Hmm i am in a similar situation myself. Except my boyfriend's got one friend who jumped me in a bar and the other who on a regular basis takes the pee out of him and tries to fob it off as "banter" he has also got work friends who just make him work all the extra shifts and he says nothing to any of them. Men are different to women i think, they dont like the drama and causing a fuss. It took me constantly dropping hints to make him notice and although he wont dent his pride and admit i made him see the light he gradually says things like, im not working an extra shift this week even though they asked me... So seems its getting there, its took me 2 years though. Maybe dont come acorss as nagging but show you are concerned and sit and have a conversation that you aren't having a go but you care about him and you dont like to see him being taken advantage of? He needs to realise if he is going to support you and a child he will need a back bone occasionally, its not just about him now.