their seems too be a few questions about young mums/single mums..........?
why doesnt anyone say anything about dads?? - i am a single mum, not through my own choice, and i own my own house work when my daughter goes to school and study at home on a nigh when she is in bed! aswell as all the usaual chores - while her dad left us lives the life out drinking doing what he wants when he wants and doesnt evan bother about his child - so many men are like this!!! so why is it that all people moan about is single/young mums - why isnt anything ever said about the dads that up an leave and get on with their lifes?
Update:GREGORY - my daughters farther isnt interested at all - i would never argue with him in front of her and it is me who tryed to encourage him to be part of her life! but he refuse's - men seem to always twist things round on the mums just to cover up for them being wastes of space! most parents would walk through fire for their children! not make lame excuses like yours
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I know how you feel, I am a single mom too (of a 7 year old) and my daughters father does not help w/ her at all (he gave her $5 dollars for her birthday and didn't even come to her party!). I do EVERYTHING! The one thing that makes me OK w/ that (well sometimes anyway) is that I am the one who gets to see her grow up. I know that he is missing all the little things, like having "game night" w/ her on Fri nights, smelling her when she gets out of the tub, taking her shopping and watching her "model" the clothes in her "runway" walk, baking cookies together, going to the drive-in w/ her and snuggling under the covers in the backseat when it gets cold and all the other wonderful things he is not a part of. i know its childish but that's what makes me feel better when I think about how unfair the situation is. Good luck to you!
It works the same way with the mums who up and leave also. My husbands daughter who is now 13 lives with us and he has looked after her since she was about 10 months old. He has never received a penny from the mother and her contact is very minimal (the mothers choice).
Sure she's just a little child, and really fanatically weird about her mother. If you click on her info, you'll see what she says about herself. She's probably 10 years old and still getting breast fed by her mother, with the way she talks about her.
know how you feel. my daughter was in the same situation. when she was 17. her son is now 20 and has passed his driving test and got a job with royal mail all in the same week. think of your child, who is the innocent party in all this. good luck
well......
for some reason (read because men are stupid) the world seem to think that women should know better. Its made to believe it is okay for a bloke to desert his family, raise his kids poorly, because he's a man he can't help it.
I feel for you, I feel for all women. Men need to do their part!
The question I want to ask is do you give him a difficult time when he does come round to see his child? Is the thought of a comfrontation with you discourage him from coming around?Does he want to see his child,but,hates the idea of you giving him a hard time about his lifestyle? Try a safe third party to arrange visitation.A child's relationship with they're father has nothing to do with you anymore.He would have to assure you that she is safe and well cared for.Give and take,yeah?
Because no one would ever admit to leaving their kids because they are irresponsible. Not even my sons father.