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Many people are going to say once a cheat always a cheat and to a point true however the problem is more deep rooted that that for some.

You need to sit down with your partner and talk to him open and honest as to the state of your relationship.

Tell him straight how you feel, what makes you hurt and angry and then ask him what it is about you and the relationship he feels is wrong! It is so hard to do but you need to get to bottom of why this cycle is happening.

Are you so pleased after he comes back with his tail in between his legs and all his sorries that you are so releived that you just carry on as before without really talking about why he did it! If so all you are doing is sticking a plaster over the problems and hence plaster coming unstuck and he is off again.

I am not being hard just realistic for you so you can have a clear head and think about what is happening.

Not only are you unhappy but so his he if all he wants to do is excape.

There are some that just do not give a dam give them a rope and they run with it pull the rope in and they are ok for a while then off again.

if you have tried every single thing you can then stop punishing and blaming yourself it takes two not one for this to happened and whilst he has enough rope he is hanging himself each and every time.

Time to grab that rope haul him in and sit down and talk to him as honest as you can if he does nt want to know then his problem and not yours you have tried and by the looks many times.

You can learn to trust but trust has to be a too way thing and he has shown you no return for all your hard work yet.

I had a simlar experience only happened the once 15 yrs ago it took hard work on both sides but we got there in the end.

good luck

Well first of all if I really cared about them then I wouldn't have cheated in the first place but if I did and I wanted them back then I would have to go out of my way to prove it. But there is only so far you can go before being made a fool of so know your limit.

I hope that this is a theoretical question. If you wanted to prove you loved them, you WOULD NOT CHEAT in the first place.

If you want to have them back, then yes, you absolutely should make them your no. 1 priority, and not go clubbing, or do anything else that could lead you to temptation, or give your partner any reason to suspect your fidelity.

your screwed just like the person did to u that u cheated with. Dont even try going back to waste the other persons time because your gonna do it again sooner or later and break their heart even more. Save them the pain if u really love them.

i know you say that you love that partner but do you really.once is a mistake but more than once is no doubt about it.LETS BE HONEST DO YOU REALLY DESERVE HER? you probably hurt a lot and getting back with her may not be the right thing.If you get back with her there will always go that thought in that persons mind that you did cheat on them and NO MATTER WHAT THEY SAY THEY WILL NEVER FORGET THAT even though you want her back and you could get her back that may not be the right ting to do.You should say that you want to be friends but do not go back with her.AND YOU SHOULD NOT CONTINUE CHEATING ON PEOPLE BECAUSE AT THE END IT WILL END UP KEEPING YOU ALONE

Nightclubbing AND cheating. You aren't exactly the kind of individual most right minded people are looking for. There are enough good bf/gf possibilities out there so why should they settle for you?

u dump if u cheated so are u not asking 4 the same treatment

Anyone who cheats on their partner deserves to be dumped.

If that is his attitude towards him, he is definately not worth it! If i had cheated on someone that i loved, i'd beg their forgiveness and make sure it never happened again!

Friends 1st, get out there on the pull