Should I say something to my brother?
My brother got engaged last month and while I like the guy he got engaged to, I think he is making a mistake. See our dad is a military man, so we get to go through the worry when he isn't home which is truly horrible. Well my brothers fiance is a military man too, so that worry will be even worse. Plus from the little I remember our mom(she passed when I was very young) it was very painful for her and now all I can think about is my brother going through that and the worry for our dad on top of that. So should I say something?
Update:Veronica
"I like the guy he got engaged to" and "Well my brothers fiance is a military man"
Should clue you into the fact that he got engaged to a man.
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Your concern is understandable, for sure. However, your brother is fully aware of what enlisting in the military means and he most certainly understands the risks as he, too, lived the military life with your father while growing up.
Say nothing. He already knows. Trust me, he knows. And, he still is getting married, so it is something he has taken into consideration and the happiness of being with someone he loves far outweighs the risks of military life or death.
No, keep quiet. Your brother grew up in the same household with the same worries, correct? And, obviously, it didn't affect him to the point where he was willing to change his life over it. I'm sure he knows what he's doing and even if he doesn't, nobody wants to hear this kind of negativity at such a happy time. If you knew something horrid about his fiance that he didn't know, that would be different. But this is almost insulting (even though you don't mean it that way). It's insulting because you're basically saying he hasn't thought it through.
Sometimes even though you know the risk it's all worth it. im sure he knows the possibilities but he's okay with it and making the choice to marry him anway.
Did your BROTHER engage to a MAN? Um... I think I don't understand your question... This is the only answer I can give you: It's your decision!
Just say that you are happy for him and you hope he finds happiness .