My Mum Abuses Me For Being Fat Please Help Me Im 14 Years Old And I Dont Know What To Do ?
My mum said if i dont lose wieght she will send me to a fat camp I am 11st 0lb and my mum hits me round my face arms and sometimes in the stomach she almost broke my mirror in my room shehas now taken my PSP, DVD Player and TV out of my room she said that i am in love with food and i cant help myself and i am also not allowed to spend my paper round wages because she has taken them off me so i dont spend it on food I am forced to the gym 5 times a week and I just cant cope and i dont trust her anymore because she reads my phone messages when i am asleep why cant she love me no matter how i look like and now the only video game i can play is wii fit shall i run away form home or not? also when she is mad at me she grabs my stomach and squeezes it i cant put down any more reasons because i cant really remember the rest i am now grounded for a month because i bought and Kinder Bueno and a Kit Kat Senses!! (for my school lunch ) I am thinking shall i run away from home or im thinking shall i kill myself but it is strange how she doesnt do it around my friends or my dad. please help me I am 14 and so confused why cant she love me the way I am please i just want it to stop A.S.A.P ! is 11st hat bad becauseshe says I am grossly overwieght and clinically obese.
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Your mom is in the wrong here. You need to talk to a teacher at your school or a counselor at your school about what is going on. Or if you prefer talk to any other adult you know and trust, possibly a member of the clergy, a doctor or nurse you see regularly. Since you are grounded I assume you were at school when you posted this, so show what you have written to a teacher and that should start the process of getting help.
This makes me really sad. I'm sorry your mum does and says that sort of stuff to you. She is wrong to do that and I would tell you to ignore her if I thought it was possible. :(
You shouldn't run away. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger right? It's cliche but it's true. The best thing I can say is that what other people think of you doesn't matter in the grand scheme of your life ok? ;)
I've cut my arms/legs before. A lot of people have. I never did anything serious and wasn't trying to but I've wanted to die plenty. It doesn't mean you'll always feel that way and it always seems more insignificant when you come out the other side.
Try and ride it through and if YOU really want to lose weight then research it by yourself and do it secretly. That way you won't get critisised when you trip up and by the time you succeed all you'll get is compliments. If you're going to lose weight - do it for yourself - because YOU really want it. Not for anybody else.
first you need to realize, your mom has some serious issues. You ARE lovable no matter what your mom thinks or how much you weigh and she is the one with the problem, please don't blame yourself. Start to talk to every adult you know about it, that will be hard, but seeing how she only does it when no one else is around tells me that she knows what she is doing is wrong and doesn't want others to know. Insist on going to a doctor and talking with them about your weight and diet options and stick to that as your mom may not be leading you in a healthy direction. Keep talking to other adults about it, no one should go through that type of abuse and your mom needs to seek help and you need to find people that will help you stand up for yourself in the face of this challenge with her. I'm sure underneath the problems, your mom loves you very much, try to hold onto that, it's the problems that make it seem she doesn't love you, but I'm sure underneath the problems is a scared sad women that really does love you. Hang in there!
oh hun that is awful do u have a teacher or a non member of the family u can turn to ? no one should ever treat someone with so much hate ! especially not your own mother she should love u what ever u look like you are her flesh and blood . are u close to your dad he should know as u sed u mite kill yourself but y do that ? she will win u r special u are 14 eleven stone is not over weight your body is going through so many changes your emotions are going to be everywhere anyway i have 4 children and 3 of those are girls and the problems they have gone through its a wonder i have any hair ! your school work etc is what u need to concerntrate on and tell somebody what your mum duz she should not do things like that to u
I'm just 14 years old like u and i know how u feel rite now even though I'm average in weight but that does'nt matter. I do think u should talk to your dad or your siblings or one of your aunts and uncles or even your grandparents. Or maybe u can even find a doctor who works with diets or your teacher who can help u either way. Just talk to somebody u can fully trust okeyy? An open-minded adult who u can definitely trust. Just spill it all out to that one person and I'm sure he/she can help u (: Cause' I'm just 14 and i don't know how to solve your problem honestly but heyy, i suggest u to share your problem with others.don't save it for yourself alright?You're not alone as I'm sure there are lots of people who can save your future. i wish u the very best of luck and please don't kill yourself or even scratch a tiny bit of your arms cause'
YOU DESERVE YOUR LIFE. :))
May god bless u always. Have a happy life! (3
Love,
delle.