I am 33 weeks pregnant and the person who got me pregnant isnt being involved at all see details.?
he has moved about 45 minutes away ,he no longer answers his phone call or text messages but will call me back at 10 at night. I think he is seeing someone else. even if he's not what hes doing is still messed up . He says it's my fault and that I dont deserve any better because I cheated when we firts got togeather , granted this has been quite sometime ago and i was obviously not pregnant at the time . I think he is also lieing to his friends and family about why he is not haveing a part in the pregnancy even though i am busting my butt trying to make things right. what should i do ?
Update:he has moved about 45 minutes away ,he no longer answers his phone call or text messages but will call me back at 10 at night.But he still shows up when he wants to and acts like everything is ok and stays that night and tells me he loves me and everything . i am tired of him playing with my emotions especially when im this far along. I think he is seeing someone else. even if he's not what hes doing is still messed up . He says it's my fault and that I dont deserve any better because I cheated when we firts got togeather , granted this has been quite sometime ago and i was obviously not pregnant at the time . I think he is also lieing to his friends and family about why he is not haveing a part in the pregnancy even though i am busting my butt trying to make things right. what should i do ?
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If he dont want to be a baby daddy do it yourself, women are strong enough
or find a willing man to help
dont mess around with child support, it is childish
i would terminate his parental rights and either keep the baby or put it up for adoption... adoption may be a better choice.
LEAVE HIM ALONE
Let him go. It's harsh, but reality does bite. Our past mistakes can come back to haunt us, that's what regrets are all about. Even so, he needs to remember two wrongs never make a right... no matter the circumstances.
As a single mother, I need to tell you the best advice I ever received was to journal. Get a 40 cent notebook at Walmart and document EVERYTHING he does or says involving your baby. If he knows you have a dr appt and has no interest, document that. However, if he calls just to ask how s/he is, document that too. Be fair and concise.
There are worse things than being a single mom - however, it is NOT easy. Be strong and GOOD LUCK!!!!
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This won't be the popular response, but I think you know the answer to this before you even asked...he doesn't want a baby.
This is why you wait till marriage (or at least get in a committed relationship where you both decide you want kids) BEFORE choosing to have a baby. I know you don't want to hear this, but sorry. It's in the best interest of the child.
This is going to sound really harsh, but I would just stop. Stop calling him and texting him. If he wants to know what is going on, he should be contacting you. It's not fair to make a pregnant woman do all the chasing. And besides, is there honestly anything you can do to make him change his mind or behavior on this? And you cant help what he says to other people. It may hurt, but I would only call if he calls you first. Hopefully, eventually he will get it and come around. I hope this helps. Congradulations and good luck with your baby. :D
I agree with accepting the fact that he has obviously moved on. It sucks I know and it's hard and it's bull that he can walk away but really you can't get too mad about him dating someone else. There's no reason for him to be an *** but unfortunatly there isn't much you can do. He has the option of being in the babies life or not, but he still has to pay support so get the ball rolling now on the support papers. I wish you all the luck in the world.
you can't really do much. Just stop all contact with him & focus on the baby & yourself. When he sees that you aren't calling as much, trust me, he will be calling to see what's going on. Don't ask him anything about getting together or anything but, when that baby is born & he is looking into his son or daughter's eyes, if turns his back and says he doesn't want to have anything to do with the baby, then kick him to the curve because you deserve better.
Don't count on the guy. It seems like he's indirectly telling you that he doesn't want to be involved. Whatever happens, you can't force him to help you, and you can't force him to be a good father. Instead of looking to him for support, look at your family and your friends. You've tried to make things right, now there's nothing more you can do; it's up to him. Let it go.
Let him be this way.
He is the one missing out on such a beautiful time.
Even if he is lying it will catch up with him oneday.
Just keep asking him to come to your appiontments and everything and if he keeps decling then it's his problem.
Document EVERYTHING every phone call text message everything. Just in-case he wants to turn things around and say it was all you not trying to call him and stuff.
My advice? Let him go. Obviously, he is conflicted about what he wants, and yes it does sound like he's seeing someone else. That or he's trying to hide that he's talking to you. Ok, you cheated. That was bad. That was also before you got pregnant, so obviously he got over it, at least for a night. If he wants to dangle that over your head now, it's best to just let him go. Tell him you'll see him in court for paternity testing and child support hearings.