How can I be optamistic in my cicumstances?
My husband thinks that our circumstances will change eventually and that God will take care of everything. I know God expects us to take the first step to make an effort to better our circumstances. I am Eight months along and only have two months left of resources to pay the bills. My husband does not realize that if God had not given me the forethought to chunk down as much moeny as I could we would not have been able to make it since he had been unemployed since November. It drives me up the wall he looks for sail boats on the web when he should be looking for a job or trying to make some moeny on the side. I want to be able to do something on my own so I do not have to realy on him, but being eight mounths pregnant what can I do and he expects me to be optamistic about our circumstances. But there is a point where realalism should set in and he should try to do something. What Can I do?
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Tell him "God helps those who help themselves." Which is true. If you're a member of a congregation, ask your pastor to help you out... maybe it will be better coming from someone else.
To be honest tell him to shape up or you are gone. Find a friend or a relative you can stay with for awhile to get back on your feet. You can suggest a trial separation. Maybe he just needs a wake up call. But if during the trial separation he doesn't shape out you need to get a divorce. Your partner should be there backing you up and sharing the stress not leaving everything on you. You shouldn't be carrying the stress and trying to keep a happy face while you are this way. You could make yourself sick or worse miscarry your baby. I think know is a time for an ultimatum. You shouldn't have to carry this burden alone.
HE NEEDS TO WAKE UP AND FAST. NOVEMBER AND IT IS NOW APRIL COME ON. YOU CONTINUE WITH WHAT YOU SEE FIT FOR YOU TO MAKE IT. GET A FAMILY MEMBER OR CLOSE FRIEND TO TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND.
how about suggesting that he obtain whatever employment is available...even McDonalds...and u can do babysitting even while preggers and after the baby comes