Do I keep her or cut her loose?
I have seeing this woman for about a month now and suddenly it is becoming very expensive. She rented a room at a high priced resort hotel. She has paid the cost for the room and refreshments,however,she also rented jet skies without my upfront consent. The jet skies were $250 and insist that I pay it. It sounds like a lot of fun to jet ski but I am asking myself if this is worth staying with her. I am truly starting to think that my fear of her squeezing money out of me is being realized. At the rate this is going,Im probably going to spend more money this mothers day weekend with her than on my mother. I have loaned her money several times already and she says she will pay me back when she gets paid. If more time passes by where she I do not see a repayment I will think she is afraid of spending her own money,doesn't have a job,or does but is using me to stay out of financial bind. That's where Im going to end up if I don't watch it with all this wild spending. I am now considering cutting her loose. Should I do that or ride it out and see where it goes from here. I am confused
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I won't be rude and say that this question is in the wrong section because everyone (including myself) does that once in a while. Onto the question at hand...
You will have to ask yourself these questions. If you answer most of them as "no," then I believe that it is time to say your goddbyes.
1. Do you truly harbor love for this woman? Not meaning that you have found it pleasant to be "in love" with her, but rather do you care for her well-being, her feelings, etc. Would you sacrifice your well-being to ensure that hers remains intact?
2. Does she only have a good time and appreciate you when you are spending $$$ on her, i.e. the jet skies experience? You can tell a down-to-earth girl from a gold digger in a heartbeat by this little trick: If she has a good time and appreciates your company even while doing the most simple of activities, such as watching movies with you in the apartment with a t-shirt and shorts with you, or taking a morning stroll with you through the park, then you know she is a keeper. If she never suggests doing these things, instead wanting to do extravagent activitis (i.e. $$$) instead, then there is a strong possibility that she may be using you.
I don't want to make this too long, seeing as I am awaiting some answers to my question, but I will leave you with this final piece of advice: Do you see yourselves being together in the long run? If not, then.... I think you have your answer.
For both of your sakes, but more importantly, yours, I truly hope that thinks do work out. You can contact me if you need more advice :)
I'm not sure how this question landed in the "Diet & Fitness" section, but okay.
I'd say you should at least bring it up, and if you don't get straight answers within the next month, let her go.