what would you do if you were in a relationship for over a year and his/her parents hate your guts?
im in this situation at the moment. i've gone through this with him before and it hasn't gotten so bad. but his mom has hated me since i met her. i NEVER did ANYTHING to offend her or have her hate me so much she's tried to break me away from him, ive tried talking to her she wont talk to me, he tried to get her to understand that he really cares about me more than anything. she just wont budge and continues to hate me. just recently she told my boyfriend that I will NEVER be apart of the family and she and her husband will never accept me and that he and i have no future if they dont approve. and it took a toll on my boyfriend his parents were feeding him just all this stuff i told him that we should just break up cause i cannot compete against his parents because they probably love him more than i do. what would you do?
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girl im in the same situation as you right now but dont let them control the relationship let him know how much you love me and if its meant to be its meant to be they dont control your fate if you guys do have a future youll get through this and theyll grow to love you if not screw them be respectful but dont listen to the rude comments.
It sounds like Parental Control in reverse.
You certainly can't control what's going on with your boyfriend's mother. All you can do is be yourself and make sure that you stick with being respectful to her for your boyfriend's sake to show that you do care for him. He'll eventually see that she's being irrational.
Maybe his mother has a hard time with her son growing up, but that's not your problem it's hers. If she has so much anger to expel over your relationship then you don't need to be around the negative energy. If she won't talk to you, that's not your fault either. I think it's admirable that you tried.
Just be respectful and don't dwell on it. It sounds like you tried but I would just put it to rest and not even bring it up any more with your boyfriend because it will only create drama between the two of you.
Good luck!
Maybe you should just break up. If he loses a good thing over this, then maybe he will eventually stand up to his parents and stop letting them run his life. Why should you have to put up with this drama if he hasn't yet learned this. The last thing you need is a controlling or hateful mother-in-law.
be as respectful as you can. parents can suck when it comes to relationships. if the mom wont talk to you you can always try the dad. if you really love him don't let the mom get in the way of the relationship. she probably doesn't want her son to grow up. but its not her choice!
if i were in your situation i wouldn't care about what his parents think he loves you, you love him thats what matters . Theres always going to be some ups and downs but she cant hate you forever , its not her choice to tell you or her son what to do . thats my opinion . Hope it helps :D
They're being ridiculous. Talk to him, convince hm that this is crazy and they just don't want you together OR let them win and leave. up to you.