Please help?? After his trip to Haiti, he's so far removed and not himself...?
Ok, well, my fiance, Gabe, who's 27 recently made a trip to Haiti for a week and a half to volunteer. He got back 3 days ago. I went once when I was 17, and came back realizing how amazing I had it. I went through all of my things, and donated tons of things. It majorly changed me, and I've seen everything so differently since then, and I'm 24, so I was so proud of him for wanting to help out, too. Since he's gotten home though, he hasn't talked very much... He told me that he saw so many things that he couldn't ever imagining going through, and I think it really changed him, just as it did to me. Anyways, he's a musician, and I'm his vocal coach, but I also record, myself... over the past few days, I've been singing "A Note To God," written by David Foster (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P4Xd435coD4&feature... This was recently performed on Oprah by Charice... EXTREMELY talented girl...), and it's a really amazing and powerful song... Everytime he's heard me singing it, he's broken down into tears, which he doesn't let himself do very often. I love that he's seeing things so differently, but I'm almost worried about him... He's just been so quiet and removed, and uninterested. It seems like he just walks around, with his thoughts churning in his head, thinking of everything he's seen. Should I be worried? Or not? He seems like an entirely different person altogether... What's going on?
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In Haiti, they're so poor that sometimes the mothers feed their kids mud patties just to put something in their stomachs. You can't see something like that and come back unchanged. Just give him some time to readjust to his life. I'm glad that you've been there, too, so you can understand what he's going through.
He's only been back three days. Give him time.
what the fck Meagan know about Haiti? Base on what she said, i know she is an ignorant uneducated person. Haiti is no as poor as she said, i was born and raised there for 16 years. I never saw what she said, people can,t eat mud, they would die. The thing Meagan said does not make sense. You are a fool if you believe her. I never thought someone who is living in a country like that where many people can get a good education would be inane like that.
I'm with one of the answers, "Give him time." He has seen the worst of the worst, but through the eyes of God, and God will use all those thoughts in the right direction for his life and open parts of his life through this experience. We all have had at times life-changing experiences, and this is one, I've been there too and an experience like that, one feels so helpless and wants to correct it all. We are only a drop of water in an ocean, but one drop causes a ripple and many are touched by that one drop! You both can and will touch many people's lifes. Use those experiences to do so!
You are going to have to give him some space. He still has to digest what he has seen and can take longer than you think. If he still stays aloof latter on than there is another problem. You will have to deal with that latter.
Ask him if he cheated on you. Be random, out of the blue so he doesn't expect it.