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what has she been doing with him for so long? u didnt explain the situation but its ur friend who should file for divorce instead. i can guess why she has bearing since so long. if he wants a divorce she shud just giv it to him n get out of the living hell that she calls marriage. marriage doesnt mean bearing atrocities n letting the spouse kill u alive. as for the children they will have a better upbringing if they dont have to witness thier mother being tormented like this- contrary to what people think ,no matter how small they r kids can understand things that r going around them quite well. As for his proving tht his wife is mentally ill he will definitely succeed in proving tht if ur friend continues to live with him.jshe should first quickly move out of the house n then hire a smart lawyer. he will make sure tht the idiot cant cast slur on her reputation n tht she gets a lot of alimony to take care of her two kids if she doesnt want em to live with that beast. it doesnt really matter if its an intercaste marriage or not unless its successful. that man is quite shrewd so its better tht u stay two steps ahead of him. file a case of domestic harrassment if necessary these days there is so much for the rights of women in domestic sphere. u can take the help of a ngo or even the police(though it should b avoided until there is not much choice). its better tht the marriage end soon rather than prolonging ur friends suffering in hope tht the man might transform or some counsellor can work things out or the families of both can work things out n tht the marriage doesnt break.

You're not going to get very good answers because most of the people here are Americans and British. A very few might understand what an "intercaste" marriage is, but we don't have castes here. Consequently, we have no point of reference to help. For example, we don't understand, "He doesn't allow her to meet friends and move out." What does that mean? Here, nobody requires anyone else's permission to do things like meet friends or move out. Here, if she were "not allowed," we could only assume that she was literally physically tied up, or locked in a room. If that were true, the husband would be at great risk because she or someone who knew her situation could call the police and her husband could be arrested for false imprisonment and serve time in prison.

So, since we don't understand the rules by which you people live, how can we advise you on telling your friend how to avoid being proven mentally ill? Since we have already established that what would work here won't work where you are, any suggestions we make would probably not be feasible.

In today's world Inter caste marriage hardly matter. In my view after having Two kids she should try her best to adjust herself with her husband.

I can't understand how a husband can be bent on proving her mentally sick, when he know she is the mother of his two kids.

In my view if the husband don't allow her to meet friends & move out there might be a reasoning behind it. It can be a ego problem with your friend also that she might be interested to live in her own style. She must change herself & adjust with the husband to lead a Happy Married Life with their two lovely kids.

I am Gen.Secy. of my Resident's Wefare Society & my wife is an advocate we have a experience of solving plenty of such cases with councilling.

He will have a hard time doing that. A Mother and her children are very powerful in a court of divorce against a Husband. He won't have a leg to stand on.

If I was him I would rid this nonsense and try to work it out and if they can't....she can take the next flight out with the kids and leave his bare butt.

To prove that someone is mentally ill, they need a psychiatrist to test her and get a report on that. Nobody can just accuse someone of being mentally ill.

Good Morning: oh I feel sorry for her...she Needs to get away from him a.s.p....she needs to contact a Lawyer...Right Away...this is not Healthy for Her or Her Children...just try to be her friend & help her out...which you are doing by asking this question...you should also get her to go & talk with her Doctor...

Good Luck to Her..

He has to leave some time...when he does...so should she!!!

If he is trying to do this to her and she is sane at all then she will get out the first possible chance she gets...even if that means leaving everything but the children behind.

be cool...

he sounds like he is the one with mental issues..there is no reason for a spouse to treat the other like that.she needs to contact the law he is holding her in the house aganist her wishes

she should say "hey, you ain't my dad, i'm gonna do as i please"

and that should solve it.

what do you mean "won't let" her

like does he beat her? in that case she can call bikers against child abuse cuz they ain't much for liking spouse abuse either and they will roll up on 50 harley davidsons, come in her house and take care of this husband.

Tell her to stop acting crazy. He may even want to stay in the marrage.