My dog died and I immediately got a new puppy!?
I am on vacation in Florida, and my parents received a phone call from the kennel that my beloved dog of 8 years died in her sleep. Just as my parents told me that news, a puppy jumped out of the door. My parents got her for me to feel better. I can't stop crying... my deceased dog was my baby :'(a I loved her more than anything in the world.
It has now been a few days and my entire family forgot about my dog who passed away. I am the only one who is still sobbing hysterically. She was my best friend! I love animals, but I have mixed feelings about this puppy. She's a replacement for my old dog and I am still getting over her. I both love this puppy and despise it.
Also, my parents are worried about me because I reacted much worse than they expected when they got the news.
What do I feel towards this puppy??? And how do I get over my deceased dog???
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these feelings are normal. i also went through something like this. but just remember that if your old dog was still alive, he or she wouldn't want you to dwell on this. respect the new pup. and if you need some space from the new critter for a while, that is fine too. everything happens for a reason. also, don't think of it as a replacement. think of it as a way to reach your companion again.
good luck!
Why would your beloved dog be in a kennel, vs staying with your parents? You sound too young to be on your own & indicate you went back to your parent's house and there the new dog was & you seem to be living with them. (Makes no sense, your dog was being boarded, if you live w/ your parents). I am confused!!
Your parents should not have picked a new dog out. (Sounds like they feel guilty.) You have not had time to grieve (loving the new dog will make you feel guilty) & YOU should be the person who makes the decision:
1) whether to get a new dog, 2) when to get a new dog & 3) what dog to get.
I suggest they take the dog back to whoever - it was obtained from, & you need to finish the grieving process (which CANNOT be rushed.) When YOU feel ready to move forward (which may be months or a year) then get a new dog... if that's what you want.
PS If you can get your dog's body back, you can request a vet do a necropsy to explain what went wrong as to why the dog died. (I'd want to know...)
I think your parents honestly not gonna lie, have white lied to you. I think the dog was terminal and they put him/her to sleep in the kennel or something...because otherwise they wouldn't have had the new puppy planned. They probably feel it's a way to try to help you get over it, but honestly the only way YOU can get over it is by mourning as long as you need. You have no need to love this new dog immedately, and I feel as this was a bad parenting decision on your parent's part. Take your time to grieve your loss.
You should love the puppy cuz ur mom and dad spent money on the puppy and act like ur new puppy is ur old puppy bring back memories that u had wit the other dog I had a dog that died on mothers day cuz he ate snail poisoning and then he died :( but my dad got another dog and I got over it though but I still miss him a lot and mothers day is his death day :(
Dont take offence but... There is no point crying because there is nothing you can do about it, just enjoy your new dog and re-live the moments you had with the other deceased one.
My dog died when I was 6. I still go back to see that's dog's grave (since 1955).