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Do you want someone else to tell you what to do? That's what parents are for, not boyfriends. You need to put your foot down. If you miss this trip you will regret it. He will likely get over it. Tell him to trust you, that you love him and then--go. He's feeling insecure and jealous but you have to do things that you want to do without him, too. Sounds like young love and this always happens. Go or regret it.

Reasoning is the best solution, thus he is not overly zealous over you but he is exercising his right over you.

If you have a valid reason for doing it and the reason is to accompany your lady friend to meet her Bf.

It should not be causing any alarm and setting forbidden clauses for you.

He should be supporting you as a mutual understanding that both have reach to a point of confident making an united stand on each other activities.

Ask you Bf what the reason he forbid you in accompany your friend to Chicago, what is the main reason, check him out is he lost his confident over you ( ask in a friendly tone), reassure his doubtfulness and give him the full assurance of your love toward him.

Should he be upset even after you have reassure him and he is still not satisfy , then him that he is the only man in the world but non other.

Surely, if he is mature enough he will accepts your explanation in full, but if he still have a slight of lost may be 70% acceptance perhaps you need to spend more efforts to educate him of your love assurance.

If he still give you negative explanation, you need to reconsider this relation and re-access what is his real motive between you and him.

A couple during courtship is a process in letting each partner to grow their own confident level toward each others.

And pay more attention to the partner and not lock up in an insecure manner.

A healthy relation is to be able to accepts on a give and take each other ideals and maintains some kinds of have some understandable and caring of each other needs.

Without taking drastic actions and making hasty decision in taking side.

I suggests that you should live an independent life as usual, full of self confident and self esteem toward your decision.

Getting a Bf is not cutting off to all your activities in life, but having a trusted person beside you to enhance your life with more wonderful things happening.

Go and experience any new concepts. If he confide his love to you and you love him so deeply, it should not be any issue.

sounds like hers wayy overreacting. i mean its a trip. like a girls weekend or some thing no big deal. but i guess you could invite him along and see if he would want to go too. maybe all he needs is to know that even though you're away you'll still be thinking of him.

Just go w/ ur friends and not bf.

Chicago is aweome for their shopping and it's a lot MORE fun than w/ your bf.

Lol.

Hope I helped.

<3

No, he shouldn't be upset.

Go.

My ex tried to stop me from flying to australia to see my friends who are closer to me than my own family and thats when it started falling apart.

it has nothing to do with the time spent apart.

Why do you want to go so bad? I don't understand why your friend wants to you to be there with her boyfriend. My interpretation, your friend likes you, your boyfriend is telling you how he feels, your choice.