Is it just me or is my father sucking the joy out of my life?
Whenever I have an idea, my dad usually tells me the negative. He doesn't support me emotionally. I have problems with my step-mom. She harasses me at times (two hour lectures where she asks me why I hate her, scolds me for accidents, etc) and he tells me to be the bigger person and ignore it. If I stand up for myself, I get in trouble. So I just have to take it and I feel like I have no support. It really brings me down. I know I am an adult (23), but I don't have my mom to talk to because our relationship is strained. I can't fully talk to my dad because he's not very supportive and he's very stoic. My step-mom and I just tolerate each other. Am I just insane? Is this normal? I feel like it's normal but it really, REALLY hurts that I don't have someone to talk to about my feelings!!!
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At 23, you need to distance your self from the drama, go find yourself and no more self loathing. My up bringing pretty much sucked like the story you share, however I took charge of my life and I brought up my two daughters, correcting all the mistakes which I felt my parents made raising me.
Today, I know that I am my daughter's HERO and that neither one of them can state any negative feelings towards how I raised them! Good Luck to you!
It must be really sad not to have a support system within your family. Try talking to your dad about it. Tell him that you need someone to talk to, that you NEED HIM TO BE A DAD TO YOU. Tell him that the least he could do is to hear what you have to say, he is, after all, your dad, and no matter how old you are it's still the same. Have an open forum with him and settle matters (especially the step-mom issue). Maybe you'll learn why he's like that if you'd have a confrontation. It will be dramatic, but it is for the best.
Also, it's not only your dad that you can talk to. YOU HAVE FRIENDS! They care for you so much they'd be happy to hear from you. Have faith! You can always talk to God. :)
Hope I helped :)
Parents just want whats best for us even if they have a funny way iof showing it
This is not normal. try finding some way to move out.
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Why are you involved in a relationship with someone who does not care about you?