If you give up in maintaining your marriage, what is the best way to separate?
When you think it is enough and you can't stand any more the weight of marriage, what are the alternatives? You think you have tried enough and your spouse probably strongly believes the same thing. There are more negatives eating you up everyday and you find yourself in a life that has no hope of getting any better, what would you do? Is a 6 year old child a reason to keep it going when you actually see no hope in the end?
Thanks for your time.
More Questions From This User See All
Answers & Comments
Verified answer
Children would much, much rather come from a divorced home than live in an unhappy, unhealthy marriage.
The most important thing is to try to be as amicable as possible for the sake of the child. Don't fight over stupid small stuff. Try to make the divorce as quick and painless as possible. And try to explain everything in the simplest terms possible for the child.
As far as the actual "separation" - well, you file divorce papers, you figure out how to divide all your assets, one of you finds a new place to live.
It's better for your child to separate if he/she feels that something isn't right especially if there's fighting or tension in your home. It's not going to be easy at first. However, there are so many divorced parents he/she won't feel too different. There are many books, websites,etc. which give good advice for helping your child. If she/he is 6 the school guidance counselor will help, too.
I've been in the child care business for many years. I'd estimate that at least a third of "my" kids have divorced parents. At first it was difficult while everyone got used to the shared custody, etc., but eventually it became routine. As long as your child knows you love him/her and wasn't the fault for the breakup.
A loveless marriage doesn't help anyone. It's sad and hard to breakup,but sometimes it's for the best. Sorry for your situation, best of luck.