If you found out your boyfriend had a 17 year old son...?
I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years and he just confessed that he had a 17 year-old son. We have been living together for 4 years and are planning to marry in early 2008. The only reason why I found out is because I saw his pay stub and saw a deduction for child support. He told me that he hasn't seen the kid in 11 years and told me in the beginning of our relationship that he doesn't have nor does he ever want kids. Another thing that I am ticked off about is that his family (whom i am close to) did not bother to inform. What should I do?
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Yes, I would be upset that *he* didn't bother to tell me this in the last 6 years (it's not his family's responsibility to tell you), but you know what would be an even bigger deal-breaker for me? That he was able to walk away from his own child and leave him fatherless (apparently) because 'he didn't want kids' (but obviously he was okay with helping to create that kid). That's damn selfish. I couldn't be with a man like that.
it isnt any of your busness about what happened in your boyfriends past relationships, im sure there a good reason why it was never brought up, maybe the kid was an accident baby and he didnt want anything to do with him, and the family doesnt feel like living the past again. you shouldnt do anything,just let it happen, if your boyfriend feels like its worth to talk about im sure he will come to you and talk to you about it.
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