I think I made a mistake what should I do?
I have this crush and I've been crushng on him for as long as I've known him, we've been talking back and forth for the past five-six months now and finally got to meet each other on his birthday, he took me out for dinner and to the arcade which was a change of pace from usual dating (also he was a total gentleman/sweetheart) I've told him that I want to be in a relationship he says he's not lookin for any kind of commitment.. we ended up having another date recently and I had to choose between raging hormones and morality my mistake I went with raging hormones (don't worry we wore a condom) but my problem is now I want to have sex with him "all the time" and I don't want to have sex all the time unless I'm in a relationship with him.. he said it was some of the best sex that he's ever had but he also told me about how he has other girls that goes on dates with and how he doesn't want to be in a relationship... I like him for other reasons they just the physical attraction such he's outgoing, healthy, responsible/has his own, great kisser, good with kids.. everything I want from a guy to have a relationship with.
I want a relationship with him he doesn't want one with anybody not just me, is there some way to change his mind???.. should I just stop talking to him (I don't think I can do that It would mess with my head, damn it.. I think I might be catching feelings)
What should I do?
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Play in the fire you are likely to get burned. He is being very open and honest about not wanting a relationship right now. He is sewing his oats if you will! But at least he is not stringing you along and telling you one thing and doing another.
Maybe you can continue to text and be friends but not date for awhile until you can get your own emotions in check. He will most likely continue to have sex with you if you allow it but nothing will ever come from it unless you set your moral compass now and play hard to get.
You have to stand up for what you want and not just settle for he is willing to give.
when a woman has sex too soon with a guy she does develop feelings, where a man may not. this is exactly why you should not have sex too early because when you do that you have already given it up and there is no Challenge for him. you need to stop putting out for one and get to know the person better before you give it all up. before putting out you need to get the commitment first. also there are too many young woman out there who are more than willing to give it up, so why would a guy want to commit. no way to change his mind. most guys are just not mature enough to be in a committed relationship when they are this young.
Look - he is using you. He is having s*x with NO feelings. Do you think eventually he will develop feelings? It doesn't work that way. Feelings first, then s*x. You are simply just a lay to him. He is telling you even AFTER s*x, he does NOT want to commit.
You have two choices. You can be used or you can get your self worth back and demand better.
Honestly, there is a guy out there just waiting for you. Just YOU. Don't settle.
Yes, you made a mistake. If you want a serious relationship and someone desists, if you sleep with them under those terms you have removed any reason (however slim) for him to change his mind.
He has been upfront with you. To continue to chase him at this point is a waste of time.
Sounds like a daytime soap opera. He doesn't want to be heavily involved with anyone so you might as well move on.
You are, obviously, too immature for a real relationship at the moment.
This guy is in the "dog mode" stage. He's tricking' all you big bobble heads. I can fix your hormone problem and make you erase him from your mind! ;-)
Keep ignoring morality and find some other guy...