how to get my crush to ask me out when i have social anxiety disorder.?
I am 15, in 9th grade, NEVER had a boyfriend or my first kiss.I have a huge crush on this guy at my school. There is NO way I am going to ask him out. I am way too afraid. i talk to him. we are friends, but i wish we were more. if i ask him out it could risk our friendship that is if he says no. it is a chance i am not willing to take. i still wish he would ask me out. but he seems to think of me as just a friend. I have extreme Social Anxiety Disorder, so this makes it extra difficult. Please Help! I would love to here a guys opinion or a girls. and do NOT say there is no point or i am too young. also don't say i should get a friend to ask him out for me because that is just childish. i do look younger than my age. i look 13 but am really 15. i am cute but short. i am nice but way too shy. sure a lot of people are shy around guys, but my shyness is out of control. i might not be ready for a boyfriend and i admit that. however, the fact that he has not asked me out is KILLING me. Please help!
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Hey!
I am in EXACTLY the same situation but I'm a year older. I have absolutely no confidence to talk to him myself. I just wish I could grab him and kiss him myself but that's in my dreams.
I'm trying to work on flirting with my eyes, and also changing my image a little so I look older and taller. Maybe we could swap tips and help each other out? If you want to mail me through my profile that's cool.
xox
okay first let me start by saying im 15 too so i totally understand what your going through... ok anyways i think what you should do is just be straight with you know go up to him and say "oh hey whats up... so yeah i wanna talk to you about something( make a joke or a funny noise that makes him laugh it will make it less scary and it wont be so straight forward you know) then tell him you like him and ask if he feels the same way. if you don't like that way then have a friend ask him ( its either that or the way i told you there really isn't a 3rd choice besides wait until he asks you out but i don't think you will want to wait) And i no a lot of girls say "he should ask you out not the other way around" but to be honest a lot guys think a girl she do it cus' then they know their not like other girls which of course makes them special.. so i think you should just ask him out, if he really is your friend and says no he will still talk to you as if nothing happened... if not he will say yes!
-Good Luck!
First, I would shoot whoever told you you had "social anxiety disorder." What a bulls**t diagnosis. You are FIFTEEN. Are you a little afraid that you will make mistakes and possibly be embarrassed in front of others? WE ALL ARE. You don't have the life experience at 15 to cover al that could possibly happen in life. Change your life a little. Start volunteering at your local YWCA or church or food bank or soup kitchen or American Red Cross chapter. Or read to kids at your local library. Get your mind off of "men" for a while, and get to now yourself better! You will be a happier - AND more confident - woman!