How Do Girls Feel About Guys Pursuing Them?
I'm not talking about acting desperate and begging her to date him, nor stalking her etc, but being persistent in wanting to win her over.
I asked out this woman who I'm getting to know, who replied that she'd rather we just stay friends if I was okay with that. I declared what I felt in that I was disappointed with her response, that I consider her to be a real catch and that am very picky when it come to this kind of thing, trying to give impression that I'm determined. She seemed to be caught a bit off guard with my response in that she responded telling me I'd only regret it, that she's not a catch at all and I don't know her well enough... even saying we should just be friends first. Yet rather than just staying silent and being funny with me we continued to text throughout the evening and she even tried to convince me to go along on this weekend away with mutual friends I had turned down a few weeks before.
If it becomes apparent that I'm starting to bug her and she makes it clear she's not interested at all, I'll respect that and back off. No means no. I've learnt in life that if something is worth having, sometimes you have to work at it and be persistent, even declaring your intentions. I have no shame in declaring what I want in life :-) Do people feel it is the same with relationships and women?
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Honestly, she sounds like a tease and not into commitment. You may have possibly come on too strong; what would you think if someone you've known for a while declared feelings for you all of the sudden? I don't think it would hurt to go on the trip, but definitely don't do anything real physical or that could ruin any chance of a relationship. Ask her on a very casual date if all goes well.
There are two sides to being persistent. Some (really immature) women DO play hard to get. But if they finally give in, what have you got? An immature little twit who likes to play games. Who wants that? Normal women do not play hard to get. If they turn you down or friendzone you, it's because they are not attracted to you "that way". You might be a perfectly nice guy, but you don't do it for her for whatever reason. I mean, aren't there some girls you know who are nice but you're just not into them? Same thing. If you persist, you'll just annoy her and look desperate. No matter how casual you are about it. Back off and keep being friendly. Maybe she'll start to see you in a different light.