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NO, absolutely don't think that you are wasting your time. I really respect this type of man.

He just wants to make the girl that he says "i love you" to in a non-joking way is the girl that he wants to marry and spend the rest of his life with. He says that he cares for you alot, so i would let it rest with that. He obviously likes you if he has the decency to not say "I love you". i know it may sound weird, but its true.

I say He is a Keeper.

Good luck to you, and God Bless

Its not abnormal or anything....People are different. He's probably not over the things that happend eairly in your relationship. If i were you, i would try to take a break, and see if he's not with you all the time,,,then maybe he can relaize he's in love with you,,or it might get to that point. But hey, atleast he's being honest. That's a good thing. Go with what's in your heart. Im sure he cares about you, if he didnt, he wouldnt of told you the truth. Im sure everything will work out. And i know it might seem forever...but just give him time,,if you're not doing anything wrong,,then you have nothing to worry about! Hope everything works out!

Love is not a black and white thing. There are so many different variations of love, and love means something different to everyone. I would ask him, if he doesn't love you, then what does love mean to him? If his definition is similar to yours, and he still doesn't feel that way about you, and you're old enough to not want to wait, then end it - it's not going anywhere and you can be spending your time with someone who will love you freely.

If his definition is different than yours, tell him what you think love is and see if you can come to a common grounds on your definition and base your relationship on that.

If you're still in school and you really like him and really aren't looking to get married any time soon, then go ahead and stay with him. Sometimes love needs to grow.

All I can say is at least he's being honest... a rare quality indeed! If he's someone you enjoy spending time with then relax and enjoy your time together. Don't try and project a future that hasn't happened and you can't know anyway. Enjoy the NOW and have fun and be honest with him as well. If you find that these thoughts are too consuming for you then it is you who needs to rethink things. Above all else, LOVE yourself. No one in the world can love you unless you love yourself. It is our own attitude that we project onto others... a mirror image, so to speak.

Good luck and relax and enjoy. Life's too short to worry about another's feelings.

Falling in love can happen at any point really, give him some time. Its the small things that make you fall in love with a person. Like when your BF knows exactly what to do, or say, or whatever without asking you. Its win that person goes out on a limb without you asking you what you need because they already know, its when you know without a doubt they have your back. Its when that person can make you feel special with whatever they do, and they know you would have felt special when they did it.

Sounds like you might already be there. Slow down, give him sometime, it will happen for you.

Yes it is normal because you can't just know ALL about a person in 5 months. Family members you know ALL about because you have known that person your whole life, it takes a bit longer to know someone than 5 months. Give it some time and make sure you do things that will ensure his exclusive love down the road.

If i we're you, I wouldn't give up. He's just trying to tell you the truth, which is very good. Would You rather him lie to you? Just give it a while longer, after all 5 months isn't that long, and there's a big difference between being "IN" love, and just loving someone. Give it time :)

no, in fact you should be happy that he hasn't said it yet. that means that when he does say it he will really have meaning behind it, not just an empty "i love you of course cause you are my gf" kinda thing! he understands that those words are important unlike most people these days that start throwing around the words "I love you" in less than a month of dating. Love takes a while to grow, so be patient and when he says it atleast you'll know he's being truly honest and heartfelt.

waisting time...when you get the right person it will be easy. Sure there will be hard spots but the first 1-2 years should be easy.

You can try to bend this relationship into shape, or you can find the right guy...your choice. Many choose to settle and bend it to fit but sooner or later the pressure will build and it falls apart.

That is my wise advice

You have only been together for 5 months love takes time to grow. If he doesn't love you at least he is being honest and not leading you on. Just because you love him doesn't mean that he will love you. And you can't make him so stop pushing it on him you might just end up pushing him away.