GUYS(girls r welcome 2:]) help me with this yeah?
my bf and i have been going out for about 8 months. at first he would be sweet(he still is and all BUT) he has changed in the sence that he tries to kiss me where it makes me uncomfortable...is this normal, what he tries to do? i tell him to stop and tell him the way i feel. He told me he understands i feel this way b/c he is my first bf(i am 18) but also says that guys aren't confortable or "used" to just kissing and holding a girls hand. is this true or even normal? should i leave him...i love him but if he doesn't get it well, i don't know. I know he trully loves me he has shown me that but why does he try to do the things he does...do guys need to do that to feel "good or satisfied" w/ themselves? PLZ BE HONEST NO MATTER WHAT...THANKS :]
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If you feel this way, you are too immature to be in this relationship. If he is doing something that makes you uncomftorable, you need to talk to him. If he doesn't listen, doesn't understand, or makes excuses, then you need to leave him.
I'm unclear, but if you are saying that he pushes you to be more physically demonstrative of your affection than you are comfortable with, and using the old excuse that guys need more than this, well. If he does truly love you, he wouldn't be pushing you to do something you felt uncomfortable with. Yes, I'm sure he gets turned on being with you, and that's certainly normal part of being in a relationship. There's an easy and natural solution to that problem that doesn't involve bullying one's partner and making her feel uncomfortable, and he should avail himself of it: When he gets home, he can masturbate.
There's really no excuse for him to not take your feelings into account. Don't let him pressure you into things before you are ready. That's not respectful, and that's not love, either. Good for you for telling him how you feel.
I was raised as a Christian, but later became... how do I say it.... borderline Atheist, I guess? (Not sure what it would be called) But I do know that Christians (usually) have kind hearts and believe in karma, so to speak. Most aren't vengeful like that. I think it all depends on the person's personality. Everyone's different. Plus there's the fact that Yahoo Answers seems to have become the "sound off" outlet for many Christians, who like to verbally bash others for having different beliefs. The Atheists who have the parodies as avatars probably know this, I think. Seems like it, anyhoo. Sorry if it doesn't make any sence.
Honestly if I had been dating for 8 months I wouldn't be satisified with just hand holding and kissing. Maybe the problem is the guy but I like to feel like it is heading towards a more physical relationship.
I think you should leave him. I have a girlfriend and I'm totally fine with just kissing "normally" and holding hands. When you truely love someone, your just happy to be with them and not thinking about what to do with them. That is true love.
well i wouldnt want to make my girlfriend uncomfortable besides i would take my relationship with her slowly. he probably thinks he can get mpore out of you, no guys dont need that to feel "good" well some do but not all. only the ones who are full of themselves want that
naw one of my bf was a girl and i couldnt date her, it was wierd for me, but with other girls it was easy. Obviously if u love him and he loves u none of it really matters, if u r uncomfortable which is fine, u need to listen to ur heart. In the end it is ur choice