Does a long distant relationship work?
I'm moving away from san diego to los angeles county and I been with my boyfriend for about 3yrs. We talked about how I'm moving and he said that he still wants to be with me as much as I want to be with him. He said as longest we have our cell phones and u come and visit and he would go visit its ok. I have a problem though we turning 21 next month I turn 21 first them him. I'm concern of him meeting some other person that intrests him and him going out a lot. I told him he can go out with his friends I just don't want to loose him. Cuz while be been together he's only been out like 5 times and now I'm scared he might do it all the time since his 21.
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Im sorry to say but it isnt going to work.. he will probbably go out with someone else or is already going out and you should... well thats life
Wow! I'm in the same situation... Next week I move from San Diego to CSU Northridge(Northern L.A. i suppose) to attend school. I have been dating my fiancee for 4 years and am in a long distance relationship being that he is currently in Japan(military). We have done the long distance thing a few times and have always respected each other by being honest and faithful. It is tough dont get me wrong but if it is in the cards and the two of you make an effort it can work. I agree with the other poster that suggested making a date that the two of you make a permanent date that you will be together. This will allow you to stay focused on each other because you have a goal and together can work towards that goal. Why waste three wonderful years just because your moving. If you break up now or later it will hurt either way...So why not take that chance and stay together and see what happens. Distances means nothing but love means everything! Remember that and good luck!
I hope I helped...oh by the way im 21 and he's 22. Boys are silly but when they're in love they will do everything to keep you in there lives. A little trust goes along way!
LDRs work when there is an agreement with the couple to be exclusive, when there is contact through emails, phone calls, etc and periodic physical contact, and a promise to be together permanently at a specified future date.
So when will you and your BF be in the same city permanently again? If you don't know then you need to start thinking about that now because an indefinite open ended LDR will not last. One or both of you will get tired of the commuting and start looking for a way to be together full time or if your circumstances don't allow for that will start looking for someone closer to home.
Sorry but that's just a fact of life. It's hard to kiss good night over the phone.
If you want this relationship to last then start planning for when you will make your relationship permanent or at the very least for when you will be living in closer proximity to each other. If that isn't what either of you want or you aren't ready for that then it's time to go your separate ways.
I myself am in a long distance relationship for two years and it's going fantastic.
Sure, people will tell you,"Oh it's not gonna work, you're too far away from each other" and "How will you ever see each other?" and "They'll meet new people" but not everyone is the same.
People like me and my boyfriend make a decision to stay faithful and make an effort to see each other. He lives six hours away from me and we talk on the phone every night, text constantly throughout the day and visit at least once a fortnight.
I seems like you and your boyfriend are pretty tight, but I cannot tell as I am not either of you.
If you make the decision to stay faithful to each other and both make equal effort in the relationship, it will work out! Long distant relationships are very hard to maintain, so you've got to like the guy a lot! Temptations are only us being imperfect and human, but just as long as you don't act on your lusts, you'll both be fine about handling small time crushes.
What I like to think, whenever a guy asks me out on a date is that "will I have the same connection with this guy as I do with my current boyfriend?" and the answer is always no.
That is just my opinion but I hope it helps and I really hope that you and your boyfriend will be together for a long time!
Good luck!
Long distance relationships (as i found out the hard way) are extremely hard and usually just end up in heart break and hard feelings. There will always be that fear in your head of him finding someone new if yall stay together and it will put you through much distress (trust me). If y'all get back together in the future, then so be it, it was meant to happen, but the best thing for you to do is get over him and establish a life w/o him. My 2 year GF went away at the beginning of the summer and it's been a pretty crappy summer having to get over her, but i'm sure it was the best / healthiest option. Every situation is different, but if you want what is best for the both of y'all i suggest breaking if off for now.
He will and so will you Puppy love is over you'll see but hey maybe in 5-10 yrs. you will find each other again sorry its not what you want to hear but it TRUE!!!!
i guess it depends on what you like cause i did a long distance over the sumer one time and he was in NY and i was in texas and i broke up with him cause i dont like long distance relationships