Boyfriend is a total bum should I dump him?
He is 21 has no job nor hasn't been going to college or has no car he rides his mom car he always sayin I'll be getting my car soon or I'm going to go to college to be such and such but never actually do it . Ive knowing him for almost a year now. He hasn't taken me out since I first met him. He is broke but waste his money on weed or takes him mom money . He lives with his mom and do absolutely nothing while she goes to work all the time.. She buys him phones and clothes etc spoiling him pretty much when he doesn't get his way he acts like a big brat with me.. I continue to stay because he talks about achieving things but keeps failing to do so. Im sick and tired of it all . I work and go to school and he recently brings up he was a drug dealer and saying what drugs he would sell etc its a turn off . He extremely cute and seems smart but lacks common sense . Should I just leave him alone I feel like I'm wasting time on loser ?
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The short answer? Yes, but let me tell you why. I myself fell in love with a guy much like your boyfriend. A guy who kept claiming how he was going to be some big shot artist who would go to an art college and sell a bunch of paintings and sculptures. Well. This guy kept failing one of his college courses, then dropped out of college, then sat on his butt for months doing nothing but video games, and then got a minimum wage job at IHOP because his hard driven girlfriend (me) wrote his resume and applied for him.
Want to know what that so called big shot "artist" is doing now? He's still working at IHOP, earning minimum wage, and wasting his life away, but he isn't wasting it with me.
You're a hard driven girl who wants to do something with her life, you have greatness in you and deserve nothing less than greatness yourself. Don't waste your time with a guy who's happy settling for an unaccomplished, meaningless life. You deserve so much better and he'll only drag you down.
You should run, not walk, in the opposite direction and don't look back. He is a leech, a substance abuser and goes nowhere fast. Cute and smart aren't enough. Leave him and make in permanent.
Would you associate with someone like this if he weren't your own boyfriend?
Is there any reason to suspect he will change if you were to get married?
If you answered no to either of these questions, tell him adiós!
He sound like a typical wannabe house wife?
Men tend to not mind if girl don't work, but if you have problem with supporting him....
I mean if you tryed to help him and he still didn't you know try then you should tell him why are you even telling us it's really your choice if you love him then that's you if I love someone I'll stick with them all the way and try my hardest to help them but if they can't then dump him