Would it be cruel to break up with my BF the week of Christmas?
I've been dating this guy for 9 months now, and overall things have been ok. He has a young child from a previous relationship that takes up a lot of his time. I've been ok with this. However during this time, I've never met a member of his family or friends (they live 30 minutes away from me). I don't even think he's even ever mentioned me. An in addition he always comes to my house. I've always offered to come to his home, so he doesn't have to travel all the time. He brushes off this idea repeatedly. He says that he cares about me a lot, but I have this feeling I've made a mistake. I personally think he's married. I've asked him 3 times, and he insist that he is not married. He has already met my mother who lives 7 states away, which he requested. I feel like I'm a hidden part of his life, and he plans to keep things that way. I think my common sense needs to prevail instead of my heart before it is further broken and disappointed. Don't know what to do :(.
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No not if he hides you. He should want to show you off like a trophy1 There is something kinda fishy....
to me 9 months is a little early in a relationship to meet parents unless it is serious. How serious are you? Are you talking about marriage? Some people just dont feel comfortable introducing a bf or gf to family until they are SURE they will be with that person for a significant amount of time. I took a BF to a family reunion once and it was a disaster! So after that the only man to come to meet family was my fiance who i married last year. Asking him repeatedly if he's married is probably pissing him off and making him want to take you to see his family less because if you don't trust him then what kind of relationship is that? Just think about it! Good luck!
9 months, wow that is quite some time.
Hmm, Christmas break is kind of a harsh time to end it with someone you've been with for that period of time, or anyone for that matter.
I'd probably wait.
Ask him one more time about it as well, but if you honestly think you're being kept a secret don't continue to stress yourself out in this relationship.
If you haven't already, tell him how you feel about not meeting his family.
Break up the week after, unless you feel completely done with this relationship.
Yes, that is the total opposite of a Merry Christmas, Just wait until you go back to school after New Years Day
Haha yep I even have an essay and another stuff i did no longer even start up due Monday. i attempt to forget approximately HW until the final day or 2 of holiday, yet my reliable 'ole mom asks me each 2 minutes if i've got finished it yet
So you think he's married and cheating with you? Be persistant, MAKE him let you meet his family and if he says no then tell him your breaking up with him and tell him the reasons why, if you don't trust him then theres no point in having a relationship with him
It's tricky when it comes to dealing with a divorced man, because now-a-day, you don't know who they truely are.
Well, my best advice is to do some research on him, his background, his familymembers, etc. Then from there, you can trace them and connect to them and hopefully they'll be some help to you.
And would you mind answering my question too? thank you
One thing I have learned over the years is trust your gut. If you have a feeling something isn't right, you're usually right.
ps
Get the gifts first!
ask him to move in with u so he dont have to travel all the time.. listen to the answer he gives you and then make a decision... if hes married he wont want to do it..
Do it before if your going to, that why he can take the gift back and still have some money