Why does vaginal sex hurt so much?
I've only had sex once, with a guy with a really big dick. It was one of the most painful experiences of my life, but I figured after that my hymen would be broken and I could have sex relatively pain-free. But it's not, and it's stopped me from having sex again on multiple occasions (which sucks a lot). I can fit about two fingers in comfortably, warming myself up and using lots of lube, but anything more than that is really painful. It doesn't seem possible to have a penis fit inside me. Is this normal? And if so, how can I stretch myself out a bit so I can have sex again? Because sex is kind of awesome. Thanks!
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sex only once and you're able to come up with all these graphic details????
See, this is the problem with today's sex ed - they never teach troubleshooting. Here's something you should have learned in high school:
Vaginal pain during intercourse has nothing to do with the hymen unless it's accompanied by bleeding. Furthermore, the hymen is a lot more permanent than most people think, and a fair bunch of women still have it by the time they become pregnant with their first child. Therefore, if there's hymenal damage, it's not going to be just the first time that it happens (unless you fix it, which most couples do).
And you shouldn't be looking to stretch your vagina (not that you could, considering only childbirth can do that), you should be paying more attention to foreplay. The vagina dilates, which means it gets wider and deeper, as the vagina owner becomes more sexually aroused. Improve your foreplay and you improve your vagina...in reference to larger penises, at least. Using artificial lubricants (like KY Gel or Sliquid) would also be a good thing.
It is going to hurt because he is stretching it but the problem you are making is that you keep stopping and then starting again. You have to keep doing it so that your body can get use to it. You all do need to continue using lubricant to help with easing it in. Make sure you breath and tell him to take it slow. If it doesn't get better then you can try going to go see someone, but seeing that your thinks sex is awesome with the pain I think you will be okay. Good Luck and enjoy. Sometimes you just have to take the pain LOL.
It took me about 4 months of trying to fit my first bfs dick and it didn't hurt once it actually worked. Have him finger you for a good amount of time, and orgasm before you have sex. Maybe a couple of times. Make sure you use lube and are ready, because if you aren't fully aroused you won't be dialated enough to expand. Your vagina will eventually fit it comfortably.
Find a guy with a smaller dick!
Take your time when you're doing. Involve your clitoris! It will stop hurting and start feeling magical.
That is not normal. You need to see a gynecologist