Okay so I have a boyfriend who I have been with for over 7 months now. Sure he is a sweetheart when he wants to be, but most of the time he is an asshole with a capital A, he is very insecure, extremely jealous, and I have grown tired of his stupidity and his way of insecurities. I am annoyed with him most of the time now.
So anyways I started this new job about 5 months ago, and I met this guy, this guy that I have been going crazy over since i started working there. He is gorgeous, everytime i see him i can't stop smiling, he always gives me butterflies. I can honestly say that Ive never been into someone this bad. He gives me a reason to look forward to going to work, he spends his breaks and lunches with me ( which is sooo sweet).
Here is the crazy part..Before anything got too complicated between us I told him that I had a boyfriend, he was kind of shocked but he accepted it. I had asked him if he had a girl friend and he said he DID NOT, that he was just sort of dating people. So we continued to talk and laugh and he eventually couldn't stop himself from kissing me so he kissed me. (LET IT BE KNOWN THAT I HAVE NEVER SLEPT WITH THIS GUY!!) So my feelings for him grew stronger and stronger as the weeks and days passed by, we would spend time together during work. It was amazing. So weeks pass and he says he wants to talk to me and he gives me the "LET'S JUST BE FRIENDS" speech. He tells me that he is going through so much at the moment trying to figure stuff out so that he can get custody of his girls, so on and so on...So I tell him I understand and that we will just be friends, then he kissed me AGAIN!! Another 2 weeks pass by and at this point I can't help but fall for him even more. We hung out in my car during lunch and once again he kissed me. (Okay so this is yesterday) I go inside to clock back in for lunch and he just blurts out "I have a GIRLFRIEND!" I was shocked, at first i thought he was just kidding with me but he was serious. I was furious!!! Why didnt he tell me when he gave me that bullshit speech about being friends??? Gosh i was mad,not because he had a girlfriend but because he lied to me. I walked away from him and told him to stay away from me and he called out for me but i didnt look back. Later that day i went and go the nerve to talk to him he yelled at me telling me "I ******* CARE ABOUT YOU OKAY! I DON'T GIVE A **** IF YOU DON'T BELIEVE ME! I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY I FEEL THIS WAY ABOUT YOU BUT I DO! AND I AM SO SORRY FOR HURTING YOU AND LYING TO YOU THE WAY THAT I DID!", then he said something that really made me mad and I walked away i ran thought the store with tons of people looking at me and i finally made it outside and thats when i realize that he had run after me he grabbed me by the arm and told me to give him a chance to explain so I did. (it was weird because it was a gloomy rainy day) we were under the rain talking and then he told me to get inside bc he didnt want me getting sick. I fell for him all over again
So here is my question, my boyfriend is a nice guy when he wants to be but he never came close to making me feel the way the other dude makes me feel. I am planning on leaving my boyfriend bc i just dont love him anymore and hoping that the other guy and I will have a future together. Am I making the right decision? Or what should I do? The other guy already lied to me once, should I belive what he tells me?
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As much as this new guy sounds like a confused idiot...go for it. I've learned over and over that even if you're questioning yourself, you have to follow your heart and forget what your head is telling you. If it doesn't work out ..it doesn't work out. For me, living with the regret of "what if" is a lot worse than overcoming the heartbreak that may come out of it.
You and your boyfriend seem not fit for each other. In all fairness, he has every right to feel insecure, angry, jealous etc. You don't want to be with him, so do HIM and YOURSELF a big favor and break up.
As for the other guy...depends what kind of relationship you're looking for. If you want a passionate fling, keep it going. It will almost definately end in disaster, heartache and hopefully not babies/restraining orders/stalking etc. but possibly. Dude is a player. He's passionate, you're passionate, but that's why you need to strip it down to the basics.
Is he single, no. Is he a liar. Yes. Is he a cheater. Yes. What makes you think you're any different than any other girl he gets wrapped up in. It's a mind game, and you need to either distance yourself from him and move on, or at least don't expect it to turn into any profound meaningful relationship in the future.
Oh, and custody issues are no joke.
Both guys are complicating this problem. My personal opinion would be to talk to you boyfriend and explain how you feel. If things don't change with him in the next few weeks it guaranteed to be over with him. Then work on guy number two, if he drops his girlfriend try dating him.... but if he doesn't then he is messing with you and you should move on in the field of men! Hope this helps!