I need the help of a good Christian to help me do what god wants me to?
Ok so my girlfriend and I can't see eye to eye. Each of us thinks we are the ones that are right and other is wrong. So here is what I need to know. My morals are held high. I keep thinking she has none because of the way she is. I'll tell you what she does...She still has pictures of her and her ex who she says she still loves but will never get back with. She has no respect about that making me uncomfortable. Shouldn't it? she keeps a ring he gave her and she says that it has "sentimental value" and so won't get rid of it. She says I'm too jealous and controlling. Am I? Am I really that much wrong? She says it shouldn't matter as long as she's with me. How is this right? Some one please help our situation out. and please tell me if I'm doing things right. another Q, what am I to tell her to do with her scrap book she loves so much. It has mostly pics of her and her ex who hates me and I him. Shouldn't she leave it all and put it all away and start possessing things of ours? and "memories" that apparently mean so much to her. All I can say about me, is that I kept nothing from past relationships. I gave it all away so it can be just me and her. I want to do the right thing for us both. sorry for so much to read.
Update:Isn't it wrong of her to have good memories of her ex, and cry about him while being with me? I believe so, or there is something wrong with me for being bothered by it. How can I get her to understand?
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Wow! This is rough but I can relate. Without dissecting everything I will simply say God didn't create / give us the rules of casual dating. He gave us marriage. I will assume you wouldn't post this if you didn't think she has potential to be your future wife. I recommend following the Bible in all areas in life ESPECIALLY marriage. I know from personal experience that going against the model God has given us will result in disaster.
Ephesians 5:23 calls YOU the husband to be the leader. 2 verse later illustrates your are to do it lovingly and not like a dictator but ultimately the man leads. Verses 22 & 33 explains your wife should submit to you and reverence you. This doesn't mean she is to worship you as a false idol but she is to show you respect. God constantly reminds the husband to LOVE & the wife to RESPECT.
Correct me if you hear differently but I CONSTANTLY hear ladies complain they doesn't feel loved & men constantly complain they don't feel respected. God knows what he is doing. Follow his rule and his blue print. Its no coincidence His words COMMANDS men to love their wives and COMMANDS wives to respect their husbands. God made us & know how we work. Follow his instruction manual.
P.S. I will try answering your other question as well. That one started a heated debate didn't it? :-/
Well you are right. She needs to be a one man women. But, as far as I can remember, the Bible doesn't say she has to throw such things away unless she was your wife (1 Corinthians 7:4). I'd say, she's not ready for marriage yet. You should break up with her unless she gets rid of such things.