I am going to a bar to celebrate tomorrow, what advice would you give me as far as talking to women?

Friendly Ghost to the post (Formerly Shy Guy) @Friendly Ghost to the post (Formerly Shy Guy)

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I am going to a bar to celebrate tomorrow, what advice would you give me as far as talking to women?

I have just recently been going to bars but not to pick up women. I will go by myself on Friday's just to drink and relax after a long week at work. Tomorrow I am going to celebrate a friday of mine and I have been getting approached by females every now and then but I am not use to that. I just talk to them like I am not trying to get into their pants but I am just trying to talk to them just to see what they are like. I'm a shy guy hints my name and I usually don't go up to a lot of females so I just wanted to see if there was some advice that anyone could give me.

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Jenn Brewers ∂ Packers Girl

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I found the men that interested me the most were the guys who were shy, they were often more respectable and forgive me for this, but "cute" in their shyness. It's refreshing to talk to a guy who doesn't have all the lines and the snappy comebacks, but listens and looks at you with shyness and answers with respect. I think you're at the age where many women are past the games.

When she comes up and talks to you, just be you. Smile...stutter look her in the eye, answer her questions...be you. I can only guess what she may say to you, but just smile and respond. Always smile and make sure you respond...don't worry about the response. In a sense, when a guy appears nervous it actually makes the woman feel like she has captured you in a way. It's a great feeling for her.

Anonymous

The most important thing: DON'T use any pickup lines! They are all generally lame (if not perverse), and every decent-looking girl has heard them all and won't be impressed.

Just ask them how their day or week was, or maybe if they're celebrating anything in particular that night. Just be genuine and don't worry about saying anything earth-shattering. If they smile and give you a positive response, maybe offer to buy them a drink.

If they keep looking around or are trying to look past you or keep mentioning that they should probably find their friends, your best bet is to move on to someone else. A woman who is interested in you will be facing you and won't be interested in finding other people (and she won't be squirming, either).

And don't forget to smile. Good luck! :)

Rob K

Just be relaxed, casual, introduce yourself etc. Try to "relate" to them; women enjoy this. Ask to buy them a drink, just don't buy without asking; that's rude to most classy women. Since your shy, obviously you won't have the issue of coming on too strong. Just be yourself. A lot of women tend to lead the conversation, so be sure to keep an ear out for things you can "relate" to and it's smooth sailing conversation from there.