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It is natural to want to do the right things in these situations Especially when the one we really care about wants to stay friends. It's kinda mean really, because you still are playing the supportive role. You don't want to play hurt and hurt them, or lose more of them because you are honest and you second guess and doubt yourself. It is a hard place to be because you can make yourself feel as if feeling how you feel is against the rules.

When I had first thought i was in love, and didn't know enough to know love was even better than the spark of attraction I felt then, and that person left and hurt me... by moving on with an ease that let me know they were never really as there as I had thought... The thing that moved me back to feeling happy and sure footed was when I realized i was allowed to feel how I felt. It was ok that I still loved this person and wanted them back, even if it never would happen. It was ok for me to feel that way and be happy with myself. It was part of just being myself and if that meant I was sad sometimes, or had to say things that had consequences Then I would, and would never look back.

start there and don't obsess over it. Just make letting yourself be you a priority, even if it means you love someone who doesn't deserve it.

This is not an answer that applies to all areas of life, but does well in getting over love.

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if she seemed so happy about the breakup, i'm so sorry but i don't think getting her back is an option, at least not anytime in the near future.. although it's going to be hard, you're just going to have to get over her. Each person copes differently, some recommendations would be to find someone else going through something similar or who recently has, they'll be able to relate to you soo much better than other people, or try exercising. Even people who don't enjoy working out find this works. It doesn't have to be going for a run or lifting weights in the gym, maybe a pickup game of football or soccer or something. good luck, and my sincerest apologies for what you are going through. :[

It's pretty much impossible to be friends so quickly after a break up, it can take years for some people to be just friends. Thing is that you both are feeling different things at different times. First loves are the hardest to get over (for me personally) I thought about mine for years, not that I wasn't happy with other guys I started dating but my mind always wondered back to that first exciting romance I had. Everyone goes through it and everyone has a first love. If I was honest I would tell you 7 years later I still think about mine. We see each other around but were not really friends. But friendly if we see each other. I think you should just give her space. If it just happened saturday than you should wait a couple weeks and see what happens before pouring your heart out to her. I know it's really hard. I would just start slowly removing yourself from her life, maybe she'll realize how much she likes and needs you if you show her distance....Don't hook up with anyone to get back at her, that's not fair to the other girl, do it because you want to. Good luck!

How old are you? I'm guessing pretty young, so take it from someone who dealt with getting dumped before. It doesn't ever get easier, it will always suck, there is no easy solution. Being freinds will be difficult till you get over her, possible, but not probable while you're still stuck on her. If she wants you back, she'll come back, if not, move on. Just don't get stuck in a rut hoping for something that is dead and gone.

Meet new people, have some fun, don't take this stuff too seriously, at least till you're in your mid 20's at least. After all, you have the rest of your life to find someone who will make you miserable. ;)

Don't tell her how you feel. I'm sorry buddy, you gotta write this one off as a loss. I have been there, and as guys we do all kinds of pathetic desperate things in this situation. They only make her want you less. Your best bet is to cut ties completely with this ex, meaning don't try to be friends at all. Pursue new girls.

Its cheesy to say it but, give yourself time to grieve the lose of the relationship. Five or ten years from now you will remember the good memories attached to the relationship and the emotional pain your feeling now will only be a bittersweet memory.

Your only choice is to get over it.

Time is the only way.

It will hurt like today for about 2 weeks. Then the pain will lessen.

Stay busy, don't stay home alone. Go on with life, it will make it easier and quicker.

Time...let it pass.

Wait a while, and if you still like her, just get a new girlfriend because the way to get a girl back Is to get another girl, and if she doesn't get jealous and want you back then it just wasn't meant to be..

To get over a first love is to find a second love.