How do I get my bestfriend back?
We were friends since 4th grade and we got really close in 7th grade (10th graders now). At the end of freshman year we got into our first fight ever and it ended up with her calling me a bxtch on Twitter and me blast her virginity lost on Twitter. Then I got into a physical with one of her close friends about me being a bxtch towards her. This was all at the end of May (this year). I miss her so much, there's not a day that I don't think about her and all the good times we had. I cry frequently (I'm getting watery eyes right now). I don't want to apologize to her because I believe that me apologizing is just like me saying sorry for being real. She recently told our friend that she also misses me but she doesn't think things will ever go back to how they were. I don't things will either. I'm not going to lie, what I said to her was FUxKED! And I feel that it's too much to have on me to expect another friendship with her. I don't know what to do. Should I text her? I blocked her then unblocked her and then she blocked me on Facebook. I just don't want my sophomore year to be this sucky (I have a harassment contract against her). What should I do? Thank you guys so much for your help, I deeply appreciate it.
Update:A harassment contract is a contract the school made us both sign that basically said if we have any other mishaps like arguing, fighting, etc. we will be sent to a juvenile center.
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Once I also fight really serious with my best friend and we were apart for a logn time and that also was killing me.
If u don't do anything like apologizing or say anything ton get her back u may lose her forever, stop being stubborn .
You have to decide want to do. It is understandable that you love and miss her (platonic relationship) because you spent so such of your lives together.
I you want your relationship back, you will need to recognise that your have done the wrong thing (where you have) and explain that you are really sorry and that you seek her to forgive you and that you want to close to her and share your life with her. (if you do)
The way I think that you should do this is via snail mail. Yes snail mail.
A paper letter is something tangible and real and can be read and reread and put somewhere special. (a computer screen is shared with a various assortment of rubbish a letter is a letter)
Ultimately its up you, if you realize that you did the wrong things explain this and don't try to justify them too much simply say what you did was really awful and you are really sorry. (if you are) Tell her that you miss her that whenever you think of her and your have lost something really precious and valuable (if it was).
Tell her that you understand that forgiveness is a gift and the you never take a gift is always given.
BTW What on earth is a "harassment contract".
Life is too short to mess up like this.
You should tell her face to face NOT text her cos that's insincere. If you really want her back, be the first to apologise. And anw, friends are like siblings. You may get into fights sometimes but that just natural. So be brave and talk to her. Have a one to one chat. Itll do good trust me :)
Im not going to lie to you but its going to take some work for both of you to become good friends again. I would just give it a few days and let you and your friend blow off some steam then text her or talk to her at at school.