Girlfriend's best friend is a b*tch?
My girlfriend has known her best friend since elementary school - so obviously, I've made an effort to get to know her - taking them all out and such. However, her best friend is known to be very vocal when criticizing others, and has made it openly known to me and my girlfriend that she doesn't approve of our relationship. She makes public posts on her blog about us.
Honestly, some part of me believes she is jealous that I'm spending so much time with her best friend. I've tried to ignore it, but it keeps coming up, and now I'm fed up. I know that friends' approval is key to maintaining a healthy relationship, so I'm bewildered as to what I should be doing. Any advice?
Update:Details: I'm so fed up because my girlfriend keeps defending her friend, saying that she's only trying to be protective, etc. We've had numerous arguments about her friend's extensive involvement in our relationship.
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Talk to your girlfriend and tell her if this continues, it will only hurt your relationship and that she should talk to her and tell her to either support it or keep her opinions to herself as it's none of her business.
Well you are on the right track there. You and your girlfriend are a couple. Her friend you never asked to go out with. So her friend needs to let you 2 alone. You and your girlfriends decision to be together is between you 2 and not her friend. So tell her to butt out. If you have to tell her to get lost. Honestly, it may upset your girlfriend but if she loves you then she will see that you are sticking up for the two of you.
Yes her friend is jealous of the time you two have. But some of us have to grow up and get over it. Honestly if this "friend" of your girlfriends was a true friend she would respect her decision to be with you. If she wants to interfere then she is really disrespecting your g/f and this so called friendship.
She has probably alienated a lot of people in her life and will probably do the same with your girlfriend someday. This girl is covering her bad behavior by saying she being protective, she's only protecting herself from being alone. If she can't be nice to those in your girlfriends life she is being disrespectful to her and everyone else she opens her big mouth to. Try to spend more time with just your girlfriend and show her the respect she isn't getting from her "friend".
I think you should talk both to your girlfriend, and her friend. It sounds like your in a difficult place, so talking to the people that are involved would be best. If that doesn't work, then if you really love your girlfriend, just be strong and put up with it. But put your feelings first. If you burst in annoyance and anger, things would get worse. Good Luck, and best of wishes!!
I think you should end your relationship with your girlfriend. I know that's really sad to think about (if i had to break up with my boyfriend because i didn't like his friend, then i would prob be crushed), but tihnk of the long run. your girlfriend's friend will bother you until the rest of your life, unless she finally changes and accept your relationship with your girlfriend. before you do break up with your girlfriend, i think you should talk to her friend first. and figure things out. or talk to your girlfriend. be honest in a situation like this.
Well your theory is probably right most likely she is jealous. But hey you tried and let your girlfriend know that. If she is really a good friend she should not give a **** who her friend dates and be supportive.
my best friends boyfriend, doesnt really like me either.
ive known both of them since 1st grade.
and every boyfriend i've ever had, he never approved of.
he was sooo happy when i broke up with my first bf.
but wow, she is really just jealous.
i promise if you keep going out with this girl,
her bff will get bored & move on and not care anymore.
1st make sure ur girl friend is on the same page as u, and she better be be or ur not meant to be. go tell her shes a ***** and to **** off or something and tell ur girlfriend to no longer be social with her, as in never talk to her again!
Talk to your girlfriend about it. They are best friends maybe she can get her to stop. Sorry about this I know it must be hard. Good Luck.
When your GF'S freind comes over invite one of your freinds over so then your more interested in talking to your buddy and then your GF's freind won't be interested in what you and your freind is talkin abought which will make it easier for you to zone her out then she'll hopefully go talk to your GF and stay over there and talk to her instead of being obsessed with you