autistics/aspergers, a q about your work/employers etc.....................?
how autism/asperger friendly is your work?
do they understand your needs?
do they actively try to help you?
whats been your experience?
Update:"It is discrimination if you ask me."
i agree cjmjm2
and you made me chuckle with your enthusiasm comment, its funny, but sadly its true as well
it must be really odd from your perspective (mind you i can tell you even non autistics think its demented that people hire based on how you act in the interview rather than if your qualified or not)
Update 3:not me madam x no, my boyf is, i see him getting some issues at work and i want to know how other aspies/autistics get on
its good that yours isnt too bad, but like you said its not great for most employees but i think for autistics its that big harder
my boyfs work just doesnt get it, or if they do dont care, his routines are whatever they decide and as you know that isnt good, hes stressed a lot and honestly i could just go down there and punch them
(they arent doing anything out of the ordinary, but, if they hire an autistic(same as with any disability) they have to know something about it and accommodate, if they dont or arent gonna then why frigging hire them
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It is impossible to get hired for a normal job. People hire based on the interview process rather than hiring for the skills. You can be the top of your class, most qualified person for the job and they will not hire you because you "look bored " during the interview.
So many times I applied for jobs that I was very interested in and the interviewer has told me that I don't look interested in the job and they are looking for someone more enthusiastic about working for their company.
I mean seriously how enthusiastic do they want us? do they want us to jump up on the table and go "Yay a stock person in a supermarket, the job I always wanted".
Just because we cannot show facial expression, body language or emotion in our voice does not mean we won't help their company thrive with our skills. It is discrimination if you ask me.
The only job that never cared was working in the independent film industry. They are more like "do you have the training and skill for this position? good see you on Monday, you're hired" The problem with that is those jobs end after about 3 weeks and then you can be waiting a year for the next one to come along. It is not steady.
I have found that getting hired to be a popularity contest, but remaining sane in employment can largely depend on the common decency of my co-workers. Letting them now I'm an Aspie actually relieves many of them of guilt, as when I tell them (very much depends on the person) I an see a light bulb go off: as in "I knew there was something going on but I couldn't QUITE place it..." My employer doesn't really seem to care. But come raise time, I'm on the bottom the ladder, and yes, I do believe my "oddness" does play a part. Thankfully I'm in a job where I am largely left to my own devices!!
Are you an Aspie, too?
Overall I'd rate my employer 5 out of 10 stars for openess and helpfulness for Aspies, though the normies claim they only get about a 6, lol, so nobody has it "great-great"...but we DO have jobs...thank God..
What motivation does he ought to make a commitment, if his lifestyles is so good now and has been for three+ years. He has you; you might be via his facet whenever needed or desired; and possibly even cleaning up after him. There'll always be "a bump in the road" that might be a deterrent to getting married. That is why you find someone to marry. They're those you preserve on to and experience out these rough spots collectively. If you wish to have that variety of protection, you have to lay out for him. If it's not what he wants, then you ought to to find anybody who desires the equal things you do. A wedding... A house...A household...Career secondary
Bad Tim, why not wear ear plugs? My hubby had a job where he had to protect his ears from loud noises sometimes, so work gave him ear plugs.
I merely get angsty around noise and live in a city. (We live on a quiet street but walking along the busy street a few blocks away or next to the school when the kids are out in the play yard unnerves me.) I wear ear plugs, when I know I'm going somewhere noisy.
Sometimes it is up to the business to accommodate us. Sometimes it's up to us.
My son is an Aspie, he refused to tell his employer. He wants to be on a level playing field, I tried to explain accommodations are a leveler but nope.
He was thrilled when his boss complimented his customer service skills ;). He works in a cook it yourself pizza joint.
i give them a C.
i complain about the noise, but they don't really do anything about it. they don't have a clue how disruptive it is, or don't care because caring would mean they'd have to actually work instead of playing around.
when i started getting migraines when new lights were installed, they were very accommodating, but then none of that affected anybody's loud socializing.