Why must women push nice guys away for being nice?
Im not talking about me. Im talking about a friend of mine. I just tried to give him a push to talk to one of my friends (a mistake, i wont ever do that again, my bestfriend doesnt know how to handle nice guys and i almost lost my best friend ship cause she wasnt herself) and she totally pushed him away. Said hes too nice and he likes to spend too much time with her. Too much time? Thats all she has is time.
But recently he just pretty much gave up on being nice. And this has happened in like weeks. Now he just stays to himself, cuts straight the point on what he wants and pretty much is aggressive. Either his way or the high way. AND IT WORKS. Hes talking to attractive girls every other night. My friend was pretty hot and im thinking "your loss". Why push away nice guys ladies then complain there are none?
Update:u know it, i was going to start cussing but i figured you just assumed too much. So stop assuming please, next time just ask.
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Unfortunately, it's women like that- that turn sweethearts into not-so-sweethearts. But, I wont place blame all on women- why do YOU MEN want women who dont appreciate you? why does the sugary sweet women who treats you like an Adonis get discounted on so many levels? She does not get her due until she acts like a b*tch- now all the sudden she becomes "fun"a chase. smh. Oh- the humanity.
I know it's crazy!!! I think most girls are looking for a guy with both traits. A nice guy that is sweet and makes her feel like a princess, but at the same time; is confident, independent and masculine.
A guy that is too far on either side won't last. Eventually, the tough guys get old, girls get tired of the games. And the too nice, nice guys, get kinda boring and sometimes suffocating. A nice guy has to have some other interests besides you.
Those girls are not ready for a serious relationship and maybe it's better for your friend that way. Some women like me are relationship minded, and while I don't like corny guys, when you want someone to treat you well and you're mature, you realize that you can't change a bad boy into a nice guy so you go for the nice guys.
Point blank--some women haven't realized what's good for them or they're still immature.
Perhaps your friend came across as boring and needy. Most girls nice or not want a guy who can hold a conversation, not stare at them in adoration. By personifying an assertive alter ego your friend is now exuding confidence. Girls are drawn to guys that seem to know what they want which is what you are saying your friend is doing. There is a line when confidence makes a guy turn into a jerk so hopefully that won't happen to him. It's good he's getting these women as long as when the right one comes along he treats her special
Hun, to be honest not every girl likes "bad guys". I myself am really shy, so I would rather have a nice guy who respects me and makes me laugh. Nice guys are NOT boring. Truth be told I wouldn't feel comfortable with a bad guy anyway.
There's some stupid instinct in us girls that says "oooh, he has tattoos/plays football/rides a motorcycle, that's HOT!" but in the long run those guys turn out to be cheating scum.
I didn't like nice guys either, but then I met my now husband. I was finally ready for Mr. Nice. Not as exciting as Mr. Testosterone, but I'm happy with him.
Girls don't want the nice guy, it's boring! People like to work for the relationship... It's about the chase, not the catch. Even when I am with my boyfriend, he makes me want to try to look good because it's hard to get a compliment from him. It's kind of fun. but he does show me other ways that he cares... Like calling me a lot, we hang out all the time, and he'll do favors for me.
'Cause some guys are just that. Too Nice. Too nice is boring. Too nice is never having a disagreement. We want a guy who can be kind but still has a spine. Who still keeps their own opinion and view if they're logical no matter what the girlfriend says. Girl's like having their space too and sometimes nice guys can be too clingy. He needs a good middle ground. Not too nice but not a total asshole either.
All girls like nice guys, if they are hot. The problem is, most nice guys are ugly so girls don't want them anyway. Girls are easy for hot guys so they don't have to be nice.
Well, sir, you are very sick if for even trying to set up a girl with a guy. First of all us women do not like it when you "push" one of us to talk to someone, it makes us feel like we're being forced to do something, and we don't like that. Also, you shouldn't force love, love just happens. And by the way, women do not like being ignored, but we also don't like clingy men like your friend there.