I'm not sure where my life has gone! My child is in jail, my wife is dommenering, and can be frightening.?
Me and my wife have been married for 18 years. My child is in jail for four counts of assault with a knife. Our oldest, who isn't even my son. I'm very worried about him, he is probably getting into drugs. Every other night he comes home doesn't even look at me and goes to bed. Sometimes, I hear him bawling. Being in a mixed race household, Never worried about it before, but my children's and my wife's vocabulary seem very stunted. Ebonics is the language of the household. I've never seen my wife pick up a book and read to my kids, or herself. I tried to when they were growing up, but they never, ever payed enough attention. I don't know what to do anymore, the life I live is not the life I I wanted. We were young, urban pioneers, but everybody left but us. I'm currently on disability, It will run out soon. I don't know what to do anymore...
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You should have worried long before about the lack of communication in the family and the activities of the children and tried to put your foot down or sought outside help for your family.
But 20/20 hindsight. Why not quietly knock on your son's door and tell him you are concerned and want to know how you can help him, because you do really care..
Where is your wife, when it comes to being concerned about the 'children'? It is her responsibility also.
Seeking to further oneself intellectually is the only way to get ahead in the world. (unless you want to take a chance on criminal activity to obtain material things, which are the least important. The well being of your children and marriage takes work and caring enough to seek out avenues to improve both.
Your disability would only "run out" if it was shown you were able to hold down a job.