How to ignore the pressure to be thin?
It makes me so mad people telling me to lose weight all the time. My mind is obessessed with being thinner. My mum always tells me to lose weight, and other people I know just give me comments about diets and what to eat...I feel so much pressure to be a stick and feel like I'm worthless piece of crap if I'm not slimmer. Literally its all I think about all day, ways to get thinner. I don't think I'm fat, I'd say I'm just at the higher end of a healthy weight I even checked my BMI. How do you just ignore all this pressure, I hate it? Everyone's gotten me believing I'll be a better, more successful person in life if I'm thin.
Update:Man so sorry to hear that Sunkissed its so annoyed living with someone who keeps telling you negative things about yourself.
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OMG how cruel your mother is....a mother should never tell her daughter such things....you are a worthy human being......tell everyone they can mind their own bloody business, be yourself and get friends who support you for who you are and accept yourself.
Self confidence & hard work is what makes people successful, not negativity.....i hope you do not live at home!
That must be really difficult to hear that all the time!
I would recommend that you try to see a counsellor or psychologist who can help you with your body image. It is important that you do this before your mindset changes into an eating disorder.
In the mean time, stand in front of the mirror in your underwear, or naked, and find things you like about yourself. This can be really tough if you're used to hating your body. When I started doing this, the only thing I could find was my right ear! When you find something, focus on that, and every time you start to feel like you're too big, or need to get thinner, or feel worthless, think "No. I'm being really mean to myself. I have a great [favourite body part]."
I did this, and I found more and more parts of me I loved! I am at the higher end of healthy, and I really love my curvy, soft hips and waist. I think having some healthy weight is really feminine and beautiful.
When people make comments about dieting and losing weight, confront them about it. Say "when you say I need to diet/eat less ice cream/lose weight/am fat, it makes me feel really terrible about myself. I really need you to stop doing this." It might be a good idea to sit your mother down and tell her exactly what you're feeling, as she probably means well and doesn't realise that she's really hurting you.
Good luck!
ok first of all your a beautiful person no matter the way you look and you should only decide to be thin because you want to be and for your self not for anyone else. talk to your mom tell her you know your not healthy but its going to be tougher to loose weight with someone on my back all the time than to just let me do it my own way and slowly. ITS actually benificial that way starting slowly like change your breakfast meal one week eat special k and a banana instead of cocoa puffs. and also dont set your goal to be thin you could get sick if you go into it like that, tell your mom that you want to be healthy that way she understands too and make your goal to be healthy. but just take your time and still remeber your a kid, get involved in stuff dont go home and sit and do homework all week join a club like a recycling club or volenteer. and it sounds like you and your mom have some conflicts maybe to bond more and get more together go on 30min to 45 min walks with her and talk about schooll guys sports and problems so much will be solved when your walking and relaxing and just in a clam environment
hey i get that from my brother all the time, and it isnt teasing, he is full serious when he says
" do you know what you look like...!!? "
"you have let yourself go"
" your sickening"
and im only 16, he is 20!!!!!