Friend is being hot and cold.?
Friend has been acting weird. We became close in August,and I've noticed she has an interesting attitude. She'll be upset a lot but never at me in the beginning. Then she started to ignore me and nobody else. I asked her about it before and she said she was fine. We have been okay but lately she's doing it again. She'll talk and laugh with everyone but me. When she does speak,she acts like it's killing her to do it. Then days later,she'll come up to me and wanna talk. She only acts like this with me from what I see. I haven't done anything,none of the times she's done this. I even just helped her out with something recently. Idk why one day she likes me and the next it seems like I annoy her so much for nothing. I'd rather someone tell me the problem than act like this. Thoughts?
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The problem that she has with you Is that she's presenting bipolar problems... That means that when a person talk to you one day, and then you talk to that person another day, that person will act weird with you
The best way you can be sure is to sit down with her and genuinely ask her what has been bothering her and explain that you been feeling that she has been distant with you once in a awhile and see what she has to say.
Dont rush it if she doesn't want to talk about it right away, give her time and tell her that when she is ready to tell you she can.
At the same time if she decides to not tell you right away i would suggest keeping your mind occupied with hobbies or friends other than her, give her space if you know what i mean.
If she likes you she will realize that she needs to share her feelings with you in order to keep your friendship stable.
Trust me i have been here and this is the best solution in my opinion i can think of.
Try it out and let me know how it goes friend! :)