We went to couples group sessions. It is amazing how petty people can be. A relationship is like a business. It has to be worked every day and since you are equal partners, you have to agree to disagree. Everything is negotiable, however, you both must be true to the relationship. You must only make deposits to the relationship, never withdrawals. It means that you cannot take advantage of your partner. Put your cards on the table and agree to be honest, open and trusting. You do this and you will have a beautiful life.
Counseling can help a couple sure, but they can hurt a couple too. Use your head when interviewing a counselor for the first meeting. If they interject with their private opinions, or seem to take sides on the first visit, then they are no good.
Finding a good counselor isn't as easy as it should be, since we assume after that many years of college that counselors would be really smart---not necessarily. It just means they knew how to get A's in classes, not that they are good counselors.
I tried 3 different ones and finally just gave up. Hope yours are better.
They can do both. I seriously suggest that you BOTH see a counselor for the first time TOGETHER, not apart. My belief is that, whether they realize it or not, councelors are people and first come gets the sympathy. What counceling can do is allow an open dialog without interuption. What it can also do is stir up a pot of goo that can get very sticky. If a greater understanding of your other half will help, then counceling may help. Unfortunately, truths are strange things...they constantly change, for they deal with feelings, and feelings are transitory. Good luck
Counseling helps. But you have to find someone who is qualified and builds good rapport with both of you. If you feel that counseling does not help, either look for another counselor or talk to the current one. Counselors are not Gods, they are facilitators. You two have to make it work. Having a good counselors helps a lot. Call a counselor and interview him/her on the phone.
It depends what the issues are that you are having. If there is domestic violence or one partner is scared of the other, it is not a good idea. Each person should seek individual counseling first and then seek couples counseling.
WELL THEY CAN HURT IF YOU DONT GET A GOOD ONE MY HUSBAND AND I WERE HAVING MAJOR PROBLEMS HE HAD A GIRL FRIEND AND EVERYTHING AND WAS PLANNING TO LEAVE ME AND HIS KIDS WELL WE WENT TO A COUNCELOR WHO DIDNT KNOW HOW TO COUNCEL US WE ARE NOW DIVORCED BE VERY CAREFUL WHO YOU SEE IF YOUR MARRIAGE DEPENDS ON IT. GOOD LUCK
They can really help IF both of you want to follow his/her directions. Counseling is painful in some regards because it will make you confront your issues. But in the end, it will help, but both of you have to want it.
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We went to couples group sessions. It is amazing how petty people can be. A relationship is like a business. It has to be worked every day and since you are equal partners, you have to agree to disagree. Everything is negotiable, however, you both must be true to the relationship. You must only make deposits to the relationship, never withdrawals. It means that you cannot take advantage of your partner. Put your cards on the table and agree to be honest, open and trusting. You do this and you will have a beautiful life.
Counseling can help a couple sure, but they can hurt a couple too. Use your head when interviewing a counselor for the first meeting. If they interject with their private opinions, or seem to take sides on the first visit, then they are no good.
Finding a good counselor isn't as easy as it should be, since we assume after that many years of college that counselors would be really smart---not necessarily. It just means they knew how to get A's in classes, not that they are good counselors.
I tried 3 different ones and finally just gave up. Hope yours are better.
They can do both. I seriously suggest that you BOTH see a counselor for the first time TOGETHER, not apart. My belief is that, whether they realize it or not, councelors are people and first come gets the sympathy. What counceling can do is allow an open dialog without interuption. What it can also do is stir up a pot of goo that can get very sticky. If a greater understanding of your other half will help, then counceling may help. Unfortunately, truths are strange things...they constantly change, for they deal with feelings, and feelings are transitory. Good luck
Counseling helps. But you have to find someone who is qualified and builds good rapport with both of you. If you feel that counseling does not help, either look for another counselor or talk to the current one. Counselors are not Gods, they are facilitators. You two have to make it work. Having a good counselors helps a lot. Call a counselor and interview him/her on the phone.
It depends what the issues are that you are having. If there is domestic violence or one partner is scared of the other, it is not a good idea. Each person should seek individual counseling first and then seek couples counseling.
WELL THEY CAN HURT IF YOU DONT GET A GOOD ONE MY HUSBAND AND I WERE HAVING MAJOR PROBLEMS HE HAD A GIRL FRIEND AND EVERYTHING AND WAS PLANNING TO LEAVE ME AND HIS KIDS WELL WE WENT TO A COUNCELOR WHO DIDNT KNOW HOW TO COUNCEL US WE ARE NOW DIVORCED BE VERY CAREFUL WHO YOU SEE IF YOUR MARRIAGE DEPENDS ON IT. GOOD LUCK
They can really help IF both of you want to follow his/her directions. Counseling is painful in some regards because it will make you confront your issues. But in the end, it will help, but both of you have to want it.
its a good idea, it helps you learn to talk and del with thing that bother you both, hang in there
God is the one to restore marriage seek his will for ur life