Besties? with benefits?
My ex and I broke up 2 weeks ago..mind you we loved eachother so much!! I just had to go and messup by being nosy on a ex on fb from a couple yrs ago (my current ex found out and was hurt) :( (mind u there was no cheating) anyway my ex said we should go back to being close friends that he's not looking to go in any relationship for a while because he's tired, he also said he still loves me and never stopped but he doesn't trust me because of what happened. Since the break up we have been good friends..really good just like we were in a relationship all over except "besties" :/ we've had sex twice after the break up and I'm beginning to feel like this is a friends with benefits type of scenario... But then again we do everything together as if we're in a relationship HELP!!!!
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No offense but what do you need help with? To me it looks like you have everything under control. :) Now if you want to be with him, like in an actual relationship; friends with benefits usually leads to that. But if your are exhausted from the relationship, then having a close friend whom you love and still loves you is easiest to deal with. So if you want him back it seems like your on the right track. And still if you dont want him back in a relationship, its good to share the friendly relationship with one you care for.
*Your only dilema arrives if you dont want to be friends with benefits. Then you either need to stop immediatel or let him know. Good Luck!
Go with the flow , he's not over you and you're not over him. Give him time to build back up confidence in the relationship and you will find that this will most likely end up in you two being back together soon. But for now being friends with benefits isnt bad just dont push him too much at the moment or you will push him away.
It just sounds like he doesn't want to be attached to you by staying in the relationship, but still wants to use you for sex. If your not actually in a relationship with him, then he's allowed to be sleeping with other girls too, right? I personally think you should move on, and find someone that actually loves you for who you are, not what you can do. I know it can be hard, but you shouldn't let this boy use you like that...:(
there an be no real love between you without mutual trust, but your relationship seems to not have changed from when you were dating. confront him about this. you are either friends or lovers, it can not be both. if he just wants friends then no more sex. if not then he will have to learn to trust you again.